ive just joined this site and i am desperately looking for help. My fiance has a problem with gambling and hes now in debt, not all but partly due to it. We...
When I hear your story it just floods my mind with memories of my own story. I first found out about my husbands addiction about one month before our wedding....
You have some serious thinking to do. Remember when you marry him, all debts he incurs will be legally YOUR debts too. You must realise this will be the same...
I am sad to say there is little, if anything, YOU can do to help your fiance. Only HE can help HIMSELF as the problem is HIS alone . . not yours. Now what...
I would think long and hard before going forward with your relationship. There isn't anything you can really do to help him he has to do that for his
self. If...
My name is Julie. I wanted to join because it helps me to see the havoc gambling causes in the lives of loved ones. I was born and raised in Las Vegas. I...
Thanks for posting. i see my husband in your post. I don't know if he will ever stop and I don;t know if I can continue this endless sprial of frustration,...
Hello Kat, Being a member of Gam-Anon for 30 years I have seen a lot of people come and go out of the program, GA as well as Gam-Anon. The most successful...
Hello Julie, I hope your story reaches many Gam-Anon members so they can get a glimpse into what the thought process is of a compulsive gambler. I am a member...
Hi Julie, I just wanted to thank you for taking the time to tell your story. It really helps me to understand the thinking of a c.g. especially since my...
Hi everyone, I have been struggling with this since my husband started talking to me again last week. I apologize in advance if this seems like a "dumb"...
This is a response to Kali . . . but I wasn't planning on being so long-winded, and she asked me to share my rambling with the group. I'm not him, but it...
If a CG has financial problems as a result of gambling, GA (if you have 30 days of abstinence and a job) will get a pressure relief group together for you and...
Kalie: I can relate to your situation. My CG is not in recovery and so many bills are hanging over his head and mine. My first instinct when I read your post...
Hello everyone, I've been reading everyone's messages on a regular basis and at times it's difficult to keep up. This addiction can cause so much chaos. It's...
Hi Kali, It's me again the CG. I can say after reading how is he behaving that it is most likely only partly manipulative but mainly the stress of what he's...
Hi all. I just had to write. I've been reading all the postings and lately you guys have written some really powerful stuff. I copied and pasted one of the...
Hi Melody, Having hope and trying to push for recovery, that's okay. I would never give up on my kids either, didn't while we went through the meth addiction....
Similarities between the behavior of an addict and the behavior of a codependent are striking. Addicts ae usually looking for new ways to continue to use...
Toni: Frank got the email that I sent him. Here is what he just wrote me: "I never said I did not have a problem with gambling. I jut said my gambling problem...
Yeah, I did the same. I told myself that story too. I felt stuck in a job. I taught myself to be a legal secretary. By the time I decided I was sick of it,...
There is an excellent book that will give you insight about gambling. It is called "Born to Lose" Memoirs of a Compulsive Gambler, and it is by Bill Lee. "My...
Few of us are entirely free from a sense of guilt. We may feel guilty for things we've said or done - or things we've left unsaid or undone. We're so used to...
Julie: You wrote that you had a son with autism. Frank has been diagnosed with Aspergers disorder, (something I never heard of until 4 years ago when he got...
Hi Melody, In my opinion, compulsive gamblers are all the same, different sizes, flavors and games of choice, but the end result is always the same. I do...
Hi Melody - That's a different story. People with Aspergers have a tendency to be intellectually "with it," but lack certain inherent social skills. My son...
Kali, You ask some very important questions. Everyone's situation is different and everyone has choices. You love him and continue to hope for the best to ...
Hello Grace, I admire your strength and courage. Make the legal system work for you. If your lawyer is not working hard enough for you find another. I hope...
Kali, Having been in Gam-Anon a very long time (30 Yrs.) and my husband has been clean for 29 years, I have learned that the "why" is not as important as to ...
Learning about enabling and how we enable was probably one of the hardest lessons. It is easy to see the "disease" of the gambler . . that is oh so obvious to...
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