Hi, I am new here and wanted to know how to support my cg husband. I need to find a balance between being supportive and being able to hold my ground when I...
Melody, You Wrote: He said he goes to two groups a week, one I can't remember the name but the other one, well I quizzed him left and right about it. It's...
Susan, As odd as it may sound . . . addicts often do anything that they feel will result in "good" feelings. It's their way of making up for all of the "bad" ...
Gary. Please read my latest post on update with my son. I wrote him a reply. let me know what you think about what I said. I know I can't do anything for him....
Supporting your compulsive gambling spouse, imho, is not where your focus should be. Protecting yourself and your child is where your efforts should be. You...
Melody, I find no problems with your reply to Frank but I still think you need to convey to him that you have finally accepted that there is nothing you can do...
Gary: I get it. Hard, but I get it. Now here's my dilemma. My husband (who I found out used to be a gambler when he was in his 20's, going to the track, etc.,...
kalilea5, Basket has offered you some excellent advice. Compulsive gamblers will do and say anything they have to in an effort to get your sympathy. I swear ...
Thank you Basket and Gary, As I read your responses, I tried to understand, but I know that I do not really "understand". I feel my questions are stupid, like...
Thanks for your replies, I know everything you say is right. And focusing on me is what I need to, which is not the norm. I know where to start though. And...
It's hard, at least for me. I am probably not the best person to respond, but I understand what you are going though. My DH lies all the time too and...
Hi, when I read your post its like reading my own posts. My husband too would stay in the room with the tv on, and not interact with myself or our 2yr old son....
Kristen, Susan...Thank you for your thoughts and sharing about your lives with me. My husband actually did NOT go and hibernate in his "cave" when he got home!...
I apologize for posting infrequently - just wanted to share that I've made a decision to divorce my CG husband. This hasn't been an easy one, but I feel...
You wrote: "The healthy part of me, thinks he should suck it up and pay me child support and the loans, and do whatever he has to do to make it happen. " This...
I'm with Melody on this. Your babies need their mother, not someone working two full time jobs to support a deadbeat. ... [Non-text portions of this message...
Jim Morphey
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May 2, 2006 1:50 pm
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Hi Kali, The following is from Al-anon Family Groups and helped me tremendously when I first started finding help for myself to deal with my husbands drinking...
Here are some ways to protect yoursef . . . 1. Open up a bank account in your name only and put any and all money you can get your hands on in this account. 2....
I haven't posted on this site but one time before and it was in response to someone else's time of need. Now I feel the need to hear from some of you. I have...
Nadine, In many ways I am very happy for you....you found a soul mate. You are probably right about the rehabilitation, as 5 weeks is not that long. My DH...
Yes, I am with the others on this too. My DH did the same with credit cards and they were in my name. I hope this is not the case with you. Susan Jim Morphey...
Well I had a long, long talk with my husband tonight, and I guess its just a basic confirmation of what I already knew. He's being such a jerk - I told him I...
Stop talking to him. He doesn't gamble because he wants to hurt you, he gambles because he can't stop and the gambling has taken over his mind and his...
... you, he gambles because he can't stop and the gambling has taken over his mind and his personality. Try to stay sane. Try to think of what a normal person...
Nadine, This is my second attempt to respond to your posting. In my first I started off by presenting my background so you could understand how your story and...
Nadine: Gary gave you very good advice. You are in a quandry. Should you stay and be miserable for the rest of your life (because you took marriage vows all...
Nadine, Melody brought up a couple of very good points that I neglected to mention in my posting. When I insisted on a separation with my wife of 25+ years my...
Melody, First off thank you for the kind words regarding what I write but I am really only trying to share my experiences and the education I have acquired in...
Gary; Thank you for your heartfeld response. My husband has reconsidered my wishing to send our son a small present for his birthday. I stood my ground and he...
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