Jim: That is a veru good but it implies that I have indeed interferred with him and consequences in the past. That never happened. when Frank told us he was...
Melody, If that is the way you percieve your son then why worry? Its out of your hands.......Also, when the social worker calls if I felt the way you did, I ...
I worry because I'm a mom. I guess that will never change. I don't like my son's behavior. i don't like how he treats us, his parents, I don't like the way he...
I have started a habit that is hard for me to break. I have begun snooping through my husbands belongings to find out if he is still gambling. I don't know...
This may be controversial for some, but not for me. As a spouse of a GA, I have the right and personal responsibility to research any information that...
Jim Morphey
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Mar 1, 2006 8:01 pm
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Amen, Jim. I agree with you one hundred percent. Three years ago my husband promised that he would be an open book with me. He said he would not "hide"...
I can recall when my husband was gambling, I spent every waking moment going through his drawers, his pockets, his car, anywhere I thought that he might hide...
I am sorry to interject into this discussion. I just wanted to say that life is not black and white, you don't have only one kind of feelings for a person...
For whatever it is worth, this is how I perceive God: it is the good in us. As simple as that. When all is said and done, religion was invented to make us as...
Susi, In your situation, I can agree with you. You apparently have a "firewall" between you finances and that of your spouse. But if you live in a community...
Jim Morphey
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Mar 2, 2006 3:16 am
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Susi, Thank you for sharing your personal experiences with us. I think all of us have struggled with the act of "letting go" of our CG's gambling problem. But...
Gfaringer, I agree with you that it is completely understandable why a parent would have a problem with simply being told to "let go" of their child's gambling...
Gfaringer, Believe it or not . . . it is my understanding that the term "Higher Power" vs. God, Creator, Allah, Mohammad, etc. . . . was chosen by Gam-Anon in ...
Jim, I realize that in some states the laws are different when it comes to joint financial responsibility. I don't know the laws but the first thing that I...
Gary, Thankyou for your good words. I personally have no problem at all with the term "higher power". I might have said that I had a problem with it; what I...
Gary, I agree. I don't have any extensive experience of what exactly is taught at Gam-Anon. What I simply meant is that we should let go of THE ADDICTION, not...
Gunilla: I have a question. I read that your sister and her husband adopted two guatemalan kids. They also had two kids of their own. they treated the adopted...
I didn't explain clearly enough that my sister is not their adoptive mother; it is his second marriage, 25 years later. I don't know. That is exactly what I am...
Gary B. You said it all. And perfectly!!! Thank you. Melody P.S. I haven't heard from my son in 4 days. I don't know if he paid the rent, paid off the cash...
Gunilla. Hi, I would never disparage anyone's faith in a supreme being. If this is what get's you up in the morning, then by all means, Get up in the...
Susi, Your story is a hopeful example of restoring a life in recovery for both you and your CG. I realize it is a one day at a time process. That you have...
Jim Morphey
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Mar 2, 2006 5:14 pm
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Hi, I read through all of this & have felt/feel these same things. I go back & forth on the "snooping" thing. It's like you want to find out, but you really...
Hi all, I find one of my biggest struggles is to provide support to my GA hubby during a time I feel betrayed, hurt & disgusted. I think I will be going to a...
... Ga and Gamanon both recommended to us that I handle the finances. I thought it was kind of strange because I had been handling the finances all our...
Hi everyone, I went to my first meeting earlier in the week. You were all right about the people there. They were extremely kind and understanding. I felt...
I have a little problem that I would like some input on. My husband is currantly working on paying off the debts that he owes, which is great. I only have...
Tina - why not put his debts into your budget along with everything else? I'm not saying you pay his debts, but at least then he can see how much of his ...
Christine, The bottom line here is that anyone who lives with a CG has a very big decision that they need to make. They need to decide what behavior they are ...
Gary's comment about many of us "burying our heads in the sand" at some points in our journey is so appropriate. Certainly, these issues are heartbreaking and...
Amy, First off I apologize for taking so long to reply to your posting regarding the use of Nalmefene (a drug that blocks receptors in the brain) to treat...
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