Amy, I couldn't agree more with Basket's suggestions. I too suffered for many years . . . researching the gambling addiction, monitoring my wife's behavior,...
Gary: Thank you for your input. I have already taken the medicine (so to speak).......and have detached myself (as much as possible) financially and...
amy, I also have become numb, its a horrible feeling. My hsuband accuses me of not caring, and I said no you have made me numb. I cant cry. I dont know if I...
Kristen: I agree. I wonder about the trust issue, as it is vital for a marriage to work. My Cg is convinced that once he stops gambling, all the trust will...
I suppose I have been luckier than most. Having never shared a bank account with my XH, he has never actually got 'us' into financial debt. Only himself, ...
amy, Yes my husband thinks that as long as hes sorry, and says it was a stupid thing to do and he wont do it again, (because he doesnt have a problem) then...
Kristen; As the song goes, "sometimes love is just not enough". My cg doesn't think that we need any marriage counseling, as long as he stops gambling. The...
It looks like my CG has been on the right path for about a month now. It was our daughter's second birthday this Sunday. We are legally separated now, and it...
Sybil: I think you are correct, the "numbing" is a defense mechanism. After 32 years of marriage, that would be more than difficult to leave. My heart goes out...
-Hi I just wanted to say its comforting to hear I'm not the only one battling with such a very similar situation as all of you have or haven't. I also am...
Amy, I'm glad you've taken some steps to "let go" of your CG's gambling problem. Now that you have, it's time to start focusing on YOU. While all of us tend ...
... Amy, Yes I guess you are right although it hurts so much, I just dont wnat to be doing this same thing 20 years from now ya know. Thats what im scared of...
Kristen: Keep your accounts separate and don't, under any circumstances, give him access to it!! Set a time frame in your mind, and if he doesn't show some...
Nicole: " How can someone who supposedly loves you look you straight in the eye with every lie that they say?".......I have asked my CG that exact question!...
Followup to 'Just need to vent' - I feel so disheartened - I'm not sure what to do anymore, I've been managing all the bills and checking account, my husband...
You married a man who is an addict and with that package comes lies, manipulation, deceit, theft and a whole host of very, very bad emotional and psychological...
Kristen. . .you said I told him things will not go back to normal until he gets help . . .getting help and working an effective GA program are often two...
Nicole, I feel what you're going through. I , too,felt trapped, after marrying my spouse. I was 4 months pregnant with our only child ( she is 2 now), he ran...
well its been almost a month and my cg has been keeping his word. HE has been attending his GA meetings once a month and we and our two children have been...
Michelle . . . how encouraging this is! What impressed me most was your comment about seeing your taxes in the harsh light of reality! That is really a good...
Michelle, GREAT NEWS!!! It sounds like your acceptance of the fact that your husband's gambling problem is no of your doing, the need for you to set some ...
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Hello everyone-I am a new member to this group. I have been attending my local gam-anon group for 2 months, and have met some wonderful people. I wish to find...
I've been in a relationship with a compulsive gambler for almost two years. I celebrated his birthday with him and six months later he was back at the casino....
Alik2444, You Wrote: I've been in a relationship with a compulsive gambler for almost two years. I celebrated his birthday with him and six months later he was...
Welcome. I know when I first started attending gamanon meetings, the flow of the meeting was very confusing to me. The steps were confusing too. It took a...
Flamingo Kid, Welcome to the Yahoo Gam-Anon Message Board! You have made a very wise decision to attend your local Gam-Anon meetings. The Gam-Anon 12 step ...
Hi, I havent posted in a while, does anyone know a good lawyer in Arizona? I think I need to leave my marriage. Last night my husband terrorized me, by...
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