John, I think that's a great observation on your part! I think you ned to focus more on how you want to live your life and less on how your girlfriend needs ...
Jim, Thank you so much for saying so eloquently what I was thinking. Our focus needs to be within our own circle of influence. We cannot change another ...
I look at my daughter's life today and I see my life in the early years of my marriage. I see her "settling" for the bits and pieces of a marriage. I see her...
In a message dated 6/2/2005 8:43:00 PM Eastern Standard Time, susigold@... writes: To "give advise", to be supportive and let them come to their own...
Susi, Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with us. I think a lot of us can relate to your situation with your daughter. I know I've given a ...
You said," It's got to be very painful (and blame-ful) to watch her follow in your footsteps." I think the "blame-ful" part of it is the worst. I don't know...
Susi .... Constantly remind your daughter that you are there with open arms for her an her children (ie..she can leave the bum and stay with you). Let her...
Jennifer,We have told our daughter before that we always have a place for her. Somehow though,this is sending a "negative" message to her instead of positive...
Maybe as my son has become 16 I have been thinking a lot more about the impact our lives have on our children's lives. I can remember in my own life times when...
My story is so similiar. So is my pain. My husband is the CG in our house but I also have 3 grown children who are drug addicts ( 2 are in recovery - thank...
Oh what a true-ism this is. Thanks for reminding me. John Mudie <bulk@...> wrote:When I drafted my letter to my partner about changes that had to occur...
I am trying to find a balance with all this emontial downs that I amhaving with this 9 week seperation..some days I make it through withease-then I get the...
I have always found it helpful to be sure I am thinking in the REAL WORLD about issues such as these. Believe me, it took me a long time to get there . . .the...
... amhaving with this 9 week seperation..some days I make it through withease-then I get the days that I can hardly function withouth the painthat my heart is...
Spookyfireup. You learn to take it one day at a time. You stay busy with all the things you neglected when you were so consumed with damage-control when you...
"In reading a mortality chart, I discovered something truly amazing. A great number of people die each year from a disease I had never heard of! Of course,...
A fo-cused person hears one voice more ... I know I am trying to do too many things at once. How do I get in touch with God's will for me? How do I learn what...
SUSI WROTE: "However, I believe there is a cure for the disease. It's called "focus." A focused person is one who knows what is important and follows the path....
hi, i never thought that i would have to join a group like this but the time has finally come to admit that i have a problem, i love to gamble, lottery tickets...
Hello my name is Peggy and I have A S/S who is A compolsive gambler. We have offared to get him help bet he refused says he can do it on his owen. But you...
Theresa, I think you may be confused. This message board is for the friends and family of compulsive gamblers, not those afflicted with a gambling problem ...
Hi Gary - Susi mentioned that you posted a link for the Co-Dependents site....I can't find where, would you mind to let me have it again please ? I would like...
Seems like it is so easy to fall into the trap of thinking everything is ok and of course it never is. Altho my husband hasn't been gambling (if I am to...
sorry to have taken up your time Gary Berger <london5747@...> wrote:Theresa, I think you may be confused. This message board is for the friends and ...
Sorry but I am so upset I just feel like I need to warble on some more. I know I have lost it and I'll get it back sooner or later so I am not looking for...
Wow is about all I can say. My S/S has the same thing he is going to hit the big one but it never happens. Sometime you just need to vent and scream if you...
Theresa, No apology necessary. I think everyone who frequents this site can relate to someone who is struggling with an addiction. My intention was to direct...
"Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. What's a character defense? Something we are accustomed to doing automatically, in...
"Self-talk is what we think about ourselves and what we say to ourselves about ourselves. Self-talk can be very negative and be highly sub-conscious. The first...
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