Jim, I got your message early this morning and thought I replied
but I must not have posted it! I changed my email account
to a private account but I'm sure that will show up when I
post messages. Thanks for the welcome. I like what you said
about having some time to work out ground rules during our
vacation. I am seriously playing with the idea of placing
all of our accounts in my name - everything is joint -
I just don't know how far to go with it. I'm thinking
of changing all of our bank accounts - but would like
some advice (?) regarding our mortgage. Do I need to consider
putting the mortgage in my name only? I have found only 3 gam-anon
meetings in the entire province! - I may be able to attend one
once in awhile - I'll have to travel - I live in a rural
area. I started out in Al-Anon a long time ago and may
consider going back - I know of a really good group
but again I need to travel. I'm willing to do this.
Thanks for the kind words and some hope.

--- In gamanonsupportgroup@yahoogroups.com, Jim Morphey
<jmorphey@c...> wrote:
> Its great to have a new member to stir things up. Its been too
quiet
> around here. Perhaps your Hawaii trip will give you both some
time to
> reflect and agree on some ground rules. As hard as it might be,
it is a
> wise thing for you to be the gatekeeper for all the fiinances, at
least
> for now. I somehow feel that twenty-five years together is a big
> instentive for coming to an agreement. My ony other suggestion is
that
> you attend gamanon meetings. If they are not available, then
alanon.
> You find a different focus from your other 12 step program and
just the
> ticket for those of us who love a CG. I wish you a great time in
> Hawaii. Remember its one day at a time.
> Jim
>
> sandyalbertathome wrote:
>
> > Sandra and others:
> > thanks for writing back. Ya, this is tough.
> > I'm in my own recovery so I know we all are responsible
> > for our own...recovery that is. I do need support
> > from Gamanon. I have support for my recovery but
> > this is different. I've told my spouse that I need
> > my own support with his addiction and I think he understands
that...
> > I'm just not sure where I start - financially that is.
> > One message I received was that putting everything in
> > my name was a good idea so maybe I'll start there...
> > it may give me some piece of mind.
> > I have access to some literature on cg and have read
> > a little. We are leaving for Hawaii next week for
> > a vacation we've been planning for awhile -
> > I'm hoping that will give us a little breathing room.
> > I'll keep reading the posted messages.
> > If you could help me get into a chat room/ on line
> > meeting, I'd appreciate that. thanks again.
> >
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