the lying is the most damaging...he said in counceling that he finds himself
automatically lying.. its out of his mouth before he realizes it...he could
inocently be at the store and will tell me he is "on the road" fearing that i
will think he is buying scratch tickets when he is not.hiding everything,
behavior carried over from his relationship with his ex wife when he felt he had
to hide everything....winning, losing, where he was and what he was doing, so he
could avoid an arguement ... or so he says.
i have no trust...not at this point and i feel id be a fool if i did blindly
trust him at this point.
v.



--- In gamanonsupportgroup@yahoogroups.com, "cinsmith64" <cinsmith64@...> wrote:
>
> I understand what you mean completely about wanting to believe him. My bf is a
recovering addict and a cg. Although he doesn't use drugs anymore, he does
engage in addict behaviors, i.e. lying, etc. Once someone lies to you, it really
takes alot for you to believe them ever again. And even if you do there is
always that element of doubt. My bf will also claim he is doing things for me,
too, and I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but unfortunately you just
can't w/addicts. This is how our relationships suffer. But like you I love my bf
w/all my heart and feel that maybe that is enough. i am also a recovering addict
so i know what i speak of. The difference is i am trying hard to work a program
and not really acting out on my addictions in any other way other than being
codependent on him.
>