Hi,

I have not written in awhile. My CG husband soon to be x husband and I are in
divorce preceedings. We are trying to negotiate custody of our child and the
debt. Two things. First, I still find it hard to believe that he wants a
divorce, I am still in denial, he says there are two sides. I have always and
continue to maintain that I wanted him to get help and that I wanted to be a
family. But that I can not be married nor raise our child with an addict. He
insists that he does not want to get help and that he does not want to be
married to me. And I still don't get it, I don't understand his reasoning. Any
insight please!!!

Second, he starts on about how he wants joint custody, which I say absolutely
not, supervised visitation until he gets help, and that I want my name off the
Line of Credit that HE ran up gambling, and that he may have to sell his house
to pay it off he gets nasty and starts threatening me. What does he expect, a
divorce means you go your way and I go mine, and how am I suppose to live always
wondering if he makes the payment on the line of credit and also how am I to
move on get in a new relationship and have that hanging over my head. Any
thoughts?