Hi Carmen,

I'm really glad that you are done enabling him. That's important.

I just wanted to comment on his taking the nicorette approach to stopping
gambling. The fact is, for gambling there is no step down program. If he
believes it, he's fooling himself, most likely he's trying to give you a bone.

Stopping is not a process. Staying stopped is a process. Two completely
different things I'm afraid. Gambling isn't something to be weened off of.
Unfortunately, as much as I believe that addictions have similarities, therefore
recoveries might have similarities, they are all different and have to be
treated different. A very simple but profound concept: The first step to getting
yourself out of a hole is to stop digging.

I hope you find the peace you deserve.

Toni

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> I HAVE STOPPED ENABLING MY CG HUSBAND NOW WHAT?? WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT BECAUSE
HE STILL GAMBLING BUT IT SEEMS LESS BUT THAT IS NOT ENOUGH FOR ME. HE SAYS ITS
A PROCESS FOR HIM AND THAT HE CANNOT STOP COMPLETLY FROM ONE DAY TO ANOTHER
BECAUSE HE JUST CANNOT!!! HE SAYS HE WILL STOP GOING LESS AND LESS TO THE
CASINO'S. I FRANKLY DONT DONT HAVE ANY MORE HOPE OR FAITH, I HAVE CAME TO THE
CONCLUSION THAT SOMETIMES I JUST DONT CARE ANYMORE AND I SEND HIM VIBES AND
FEELING THAT I DONT CARE BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE ITS HIS PROBLEM AND NOT MINE. IM
TRYING TO LIVE MY LIFE AND DOING THINGS FOR MYSELF AND IF ONE DAY HE STOPS
GAMBLING AND IM STILL HERE OK; AND IF ONE DAY I DECIDE TO LEAVE MY HUSBAND THAN
THATS OK ALSO. I AM OUT OF IDEAS AND ENERGY AND FAITH, I JUST LET HIM BE BUT I
DONT LET HIM HAVE ACCESS TO MY MONEY, IF HE WANTS TO GO DOWN THEN HE AINT TAKING
ME DOWN, AS HE KNOWS... THANKS FOR LISTENING AND LET ME VENT TONIGHT
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