are you in counseling yet? Why don't you take this post to your counselor and
see what he/she has to say about it. Addicts are never in the "was" camp . .
"my husband is/was? a cg. . ." Your husband IS an addict, will always be an
addict. Even if he isn't active, he IS an addict still. There are so many red
flags in your post. Fresh air, sunshine and honesty are always a positive path
to follow. His family NEEDS to know they must protect themselves and their
money from an addict. They may choose not to believe you, they
may choose to enable him nonetheless, but keepin it from them isn't a wonderful
idea. Your post is really mixed . . . you start out sayin how he isn't active
any more and you end up worried that he is going to abscond with proceeds from
his father's estate.


--- In gamanonsupportgroup@yahoogroups.com, "minsunah" <minsunah@...> wrote:

> Background Info: My husband is/was? a cg: casino/blackjack and daytrading
options/futures. I was planning on separating/divorcing, and it took a couple
months for him to come around. He's sworn off both, and as far as I know, he's
hasn't been active since mid January. Back in February, he closed the trading
account with me present (he did it on-line on the computer). There should have
been a small check sent to the house back in the States. We are currently
residing in Korea. I was back in the States late March/early April, and I
noticed there was no check, etc. that the account was closed. I told this to my
husband, and he got mad, that I was bringing up the past and dwelling on
"negative" things. Then, I noticed he still had this card in his wallet, that
had a list of codes that the users of the website used for log in purposes. I
asked him about that, and he said he just had it for no reason, and he cut it up
a few days later. So, I really don't know, if he closed the account or not. I
wasn't all that worried about it, since I know he has no money to trade in it...
>
> But now, what I'm worried about is this: my husband's father passed away a
week ago. We flew out to the States together. I attended the viewing, but
returned to Korea after 3 days, to start my new job, so I couldn't attend the
burial. My husband and our 3 year old son are still in the States. I thought
they would return after another week or so, after the estate gets settled, help
out his mom, etc. But, today, on the webcam, he suggested that he stay there
with our son, I stay here in Korea and work until my girlfriend finds a
replacement, and he would study his computer stuff, and I would have to find a
job in the States doing something... what I'm worried about is that he's going
to ask his mom for some of the insurance proceeds from the life insurance policy
on his father. It's not an enormous sum, he said it's 100K. He's always asked
his mother for money in the past to pay off his debts. He still has over 30K
credit card debt in collection, in addition to some debts to relatives here in
Korea, and I'm worried he's going to ask his mom for money and that he's gonna
try to day trade again. I'm debating whether to talk to his sisters about it.
>
> What should I do? Do I give his sisters a heads up about it? so they can keep
any eye on their mom's checkbook, etc.? Or, should I stop obsessing about it,
stop trying to controll people, situations that I can't. Maybe I answered my own
question. Any feedback is appreciated.
>