Thank you so very much for the support. I really appreciate your
advice.



--- In gamanonsupportgroup@yahoogroups.com, basket1952 <no_reply@...>
wrote:
>
> Let go of the problem. It isn't yours. He isn't going to GA
> meetings. You know that. He isn't working a program. He is an
> addict.
>
> Protect yourself. You are married to an addict and only you can
> protect yourself and your child. Only you can protect and support
> your child.
>
> Your husband either will or will not get better . . . it is totally
> up to him, not you. You have no control over him, never did, never
> will. He isn't working a program now. He is an addict. He isn't
> getting better.
>
> Focus upon yourself and fix what you need to fix about you. You
are
> married to an addict. If you plan to continue to be married to an
> addict, whether he is successfully working a program or not, you
will
> need help for yourself in this dynamic. Focus on you and get help
> for yourself. Let go of his problem. Work on you.
>
>
> --- In gamanonsupportgroup@yahoogroups.com, pupni <no_reply@>
> wrote:
> >
> > My husband's father is extremely ill and dying of cancer. He is
> the
> > hospital in Las Vegas. He is heading out to see his dad again
> today
> > and won't be back until Sunday, which is all fine. I totally get
> him
> > wanting to see his father. I just ofcourse get worried over the
> > Vegas thing. I told him I was worried he would end up in a
> casino.
> > He didn't respond. So I asked him very simply when he would be
> going
> > to a GA meeting again. He has not been in a few weeks. To which
> he
> > responded, "You are so fucking unbelievable. When my father is
not
> > dying, I will go to a fucking meeting." Then he left the room
> where
> > he was playing with our 16 month old child and told me to watch
> her.
> > I felt bad at first, but, now I feel so sick of his shit. The
> world
> > does not relvove around him. I understand his dad is dying. It
is
> > very sad for me too, I like his dad, his dad has been terific to
> me,
> > and it breaks my heart that our daughter will not grow up with
her
> > grandpa. But that has nothing to do with his PROBLEM. I feel
like
> > he gets to check out when ever he wants, go see his friends, do
> what
> > he needs to do all because his father is ill and this is so tough
> on
> > him. But what about me, I don't get to check out when ever I
just
> > feel like it, I have to take care of the baby. I really hate him
> for
> > all the tremendous stress the gambling and pot smoking addiction
> have
> > taken on me.
> >
>