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It's me again....
I'm having a semi-tough time right now. I know yesterday I said that
my dad said he was going to be leaving and was not going to get any
help. Well, today he called me and said that he's not going anywhere
and called GA. He wanted to get with me and talk about what to do and
get my help one more time. Initially, my "old self" kicked in and I
started thinking of when we could meet and talk and then something in
me stopped and said "actually dad you need to meet with mom and my
brother. You guys have to decide what you're going to do. I don't live
there anymore this has to between you guys. Also, I can't give you
anymore money".

It was very, very hard to say that and I'm still reeling in the
feeling of turning down my father but I know it's the right thing to
do. I am helping out both him and myself. Old habits aren't hard to
break, they just leave a lingering pain in the pit of your stomach.

In the end he said "okay, I will talk to your brother and figure out
what to do". Sadly, I feel it's like the blind leading that blind but
they're adults. They should figure it out, right?

Ugh….I hate this feeling.





Tue Mar 4, 2008 11:44 pm

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It's me again.... I'm having a semi-tough time right now. I know yesterday I said that my dad said he was going to be leaving and was not going to get any ...
patsluv22
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Mar 4, 2008
11:44 pm

Have your brother and mom been attending gamanon? Are they versed in dealing with addicts? Do your brother and mom enable your dad? The situation with...
basket1952
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Mar 4, 2008
11:53 pm

None of them have attended GamAnon and all they know is from the literature I gave my mom or from my talking to them (I've been going to GamAnon for about a...
patsluv22
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Mar 5, 2008
12:01 am

Hi Pats. Baby steps. LOL. If your Dad was playing the "I want to discuss my recovery" so I can try to get money from you ploy. I understand that totally. ...
ladyha2003
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Mar 5, 2008
12:52 am

Lady, You are such a lovely person with a knack of telling like it is in such a warming way. If that makes any sense. I'm not sure if it's from experience or...
patsluv22
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Mar 5, 2008
4:37 pm

Hey Pats, Recovery is change and people generally don't like change. Your family has been functioning, albeit in a non-healthy manner, but functioning non-the...
ladyha2003
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Mar 8, 2008
1:38 am

Patsluv, I think I get it now. . . again, I think that suffering the consequences of your actions is powerful stuff. Sadly, you mother and brother may be...
basket1952
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Mar 7, 2008
12:43 am
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