Seeing from my reaction and I am not even a mom... yes! I agree that
these women are very angry. Because they are fighting against many
fronts with no compassion, no understanding, and no affection.
Remember moms of autistic kids are not receiving affection from
their kids, are most probably married to an autistic husband or are
single moms because because the autistic husband was to scared
shitless to care for an autistic child and there is society who
expects them to be loving and giving and nurturing but NO ONE is
loving or giving or nurturing towards tehse women...

Yes, if I am angry being outside their shoes I can only imagine what
anger and mostly frustration these (autistic) women endure.

Star

--- In for-and-by-autistics@yahoogroups.com, larry Lyons
<larryd552002@...> wrote:
>
>
> --- Perla <northernstar7112@...> wrote:
>
> > I need to get one thing straight: there is no such
> > thing as a
> > refrigerator mom and as much as I agree with you, I
> > will not
> > tolerate you saying this. yes, Freud did formulate
> > his theory of the
> > refrigerator mom, but even Freud was a MAN who knew
> > nothing about
> > women and surely as nothing about female autistics.
> >
>
> It was Kanner who coined the term "refrigerator mom."
> I was just being silly as well as being pissed off.
> Those women have been attacking me personally. The
> mothers are so uptight they ASSUME that anyone who
> mentions trauma is backing some provisional hypothesis
> that Bettelheim tossed out. They are so uptight about
> it, it makes you suspect they have guilty consciences.
> The lady doth protest too much methinks.
>
> Anyway, Kanner noticed that many mothers of autistic
> children are cold. It was a simple observation.
> There was no formal theory proposed for this, much
> less tested, by anyone. And that includes Bettelheim.
>
>
> See if I'm wrong. Go out there into the fray and see
> what happens if you mention neglect--or even simple
> trauma. They will want to kill you.
>
> Yours,
> Larry
>
>
>
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