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http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2005-03-24-schiavo-money-cover_x.htm?csp=2
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Feud may be as much over money as principle
By Larry Copeland and Jill Lawrence, USA TODAY
PINELLAS PARK, Fla. — Michael Schiavo and Bob and Mary Schindler once were
very close. He was the husband. They were the in-laws.

Terri Schiavo's agonizing struggle for life — or death — grips the nation
and much of the world.
Courtesy Schindler Family Video, via AP

Their shared joy was Terri, Michael's wife, the Schindlers' daughter. In
photos from Terri and Michael's wedding day in 1984 and later, everyone is
smiling.
The bonds remained strong even after tragedy befell Terri. Early on the
morning of Feb. 25, 1990, she suffered a heart attack that led to massive brain
damage.
Today, Terri Schiavo's agonizing struggle for life — or death — grips the
nation and much of the world. Driving the sorrowful, sometimes angry rhetoric in
this epic clash over the right to live or die is something less cosmic: a
vitriolic family feud.
It is a feud, to some degree, over principle. Michael Schiavo says Terri
should be allowed to die because she told him long before she was stricken that
she would never want to be kept alive by a feeding tube or other such measures.
The Schindlers say their son-in-law is starving Terri to death. They want to
keep her alive and try to rehabiliate her.
But it also appears to be a fight over money — how a $1 million malpractice
settlement Schiavo won 13 years ago over Terri's care should be spent.
Without that emotional public schism, the Schiavo case might simply have been
one of thousands of wrenching family decisions about life and death that
unfold quietly every year.
What once was a fond relationship — Michael Schiavo had called the Schindlers
"Mom" and "Dad" — has dissolved into bitter recriminations playing out in
courthouses, capitols, weblogs and on Larry King Live. Schiavo says he hasn't
talked to his in-laws in years.
Some of the protesters gathered outside Woodside Hospice here have demonized
Michael Schiavo, accusing him of everything from murder to adultery because he
lives with a woman and has two toddlers, a daughter and a son, by her.
It wasn't always this way, according to a USA TODAY review of voluminous
records in the Probate Division of Pinellas County Circuit Court in nearby
Clearwater.
Those records show that Michael Schiavo and the Schindlers jointly supervised
care for Terri after she collapsed. For the first 16 days and nights that she
was hospitalized, Schiavo never left the hospital. Over the next few years,
as she was moved from the hospital to a skilled nursing facility, to a nursing
home, to Schiavo's home and finally back to a nursing home, Schiavo visited
Terri daily.
They had met in a class at Bucks County Community College in Pennsylvania.
They were engaged five months later and married on Nov. 10, 1984, in Huntingdon
Valley, Pa. She was, he said, "sweet. Very personable. You would meet her and
just be charmed by her. ... To me, she was everything."
Once Terri was unable to help herself, Michael became a demanding advocate.
John Pecarek, a court-appointed guardian for Terri, described her husband as
"a nursing home administrator's nightmare," adding, "I believe that the ward
(Terri) gets care and attention from the staff of Sabal Palms (nursing home) as
a result of Mr. Schiavo's advocacy and defending on her behalf."
Mary Schindler testified that, while her daughter was at one nursing home,
her relationship with her son-in-law was "very good. We did everything together.
Wherever he went, I went."
Schiavo and the Schindlers even sold pretzels and hot dogs on St. Pete Beach
to raise money for Terri's care. But everything seemed to change on
Valentine's Day 1993 in a nursing home near here.
In 1992, Schiavo had filed a medical malpractice lawsuit against two doctors
who had been treating his wife before she was stricken. Late that year came a
settlement: Schiavo received $300,000 for loss of consortium — his wife's
companionship. Another $700,000 was ordered for Terri's care.
Mary Schindler later testified that Schiavo had promised money to his
in-laws. They had helped him and Terri move from New Jersey to Pinellas County,
let
them live rent-free in their condominium and had given him other financial
help.
"We all had financial problems" after Terri's crisis, she testified.
"Michael, Bob. We all did. It was a very stressful time. It was a very
financially
difficult time. He used to say, 'Don't worry, Mom. If I ever get any money from
the lawsuit, I'll help you and Dad.' "
By February 1993, Schiavo had the money from the lawsuit.
On Valentine's Day that year, he testified, he was in his wife's nursing home
room studying. He wanted to become a nurse so he could care for his wife
himself. He had taken Terri to California for experimental treatment. A doctor
there had placed a stimulator inside Terri's brain and those of other people in
vegetative states to try to stimulate still-living but dormant cells.
According to Schiavo's testimony, the Schindlers came into Terri's room in
the nursing home, spoke to their daughter, then turned to him.
"The first words out of my father-in-law's mouth was how much money he was
going to get," Schiavo said. "I was, 'What do you mean?' 'Well, you owe me
money.' "
Schiavo said he told his in-laws that all the money had gone to his wife — a
lie he said he told Bob Schindler "to shut him up because he was screaming."
Schiavo said his father-in-law called him "a few choice words," then stormed
out of the room. Schiavo said he started to follow him, but his mother-in-law
stepped in front of him, saying, "This is my daughter, our daughter, and we
deserve some of this money."
Mary Schindler's account of that evening is far different. She testified that
she and her husband found Schiavo studying. "We were talking about the money
and about his money," she said. "That with his money and the money Terri got,
now we could take her (for specialized care) or get some testing done. Do all
this stuff. He said he was not going to do it."
She said he threw his book and a table against the wall and told them they
would never see their daughter again.
A rift beyond repair
The accounts of that confrontation came in testimony during a January 2000
hearing on a petition Schiavo filed to discontinue his wife's life support.
Pinellas County Circuit Judge George Greer ruled the next month that the feeding
tube could be removed.
Despite the row over money, Schiavo and the Schindlers agreed on one major
point in the 2000 testimony: the extent of Terri's brain damage, according to
additional court documents cited by The Miami Herald. In the documents, Pamela
Campbell, then the Schindlers' lawyer, told the court that "we do not doubt
that she's in a persistent vegetative state." Campbell could not be reached to
confirm the statement.
At this point, however, the gulf between Schiavo and the Schindlers could not
be bridged.
"On Feb. 14, 1993, this amicable relationship between the parties was
severed," Greer wrote. "While the testimony differs on what may or may not have
been
promised to whom and by whom, it is clear to this court that such severance
was predicated upon money and the fact that Mr. Schiavo was unwilling to equally
divide his loss of consortium award with Mr. and Mrs. Schindler."
Daniel Grieco, the attorney who handled Michael Schiavo's malpractice case,
says his client never promised money to Bob Schindler. He also said Schindler
never understood that he wasn't entitled to money under Florida law.
Grieco says the money is at the root of the estrangement. "It was the pr
ecipitating factor," Grieco says. "That was the fracture. That was the basis of
it."
Without the acrimony, Terri's life-or-death saga probably would not have
become big news, says Steve Mintz, a history professor at the University of
Houston who studies families.
"There have been similar cases where people have been disconnected, but
because they didn't reach the same level of in-law tensions, they didn't evoke
such
strong feelings," Mintz told the Associated Press. "The subtext of this case
is intergenerational tension. Parents are more invested than ever in their
children, even when they're grown."
In a case similar to Terri Schiavo's, a 1983 car accident left Nancy Cruzan
unconscious. She could breathe but needed a feeding tube. The Supreme Court, in
its first right-to-die case, ruled in 1990 that Cruzan had a right to refuse
treatment but said her parents did not present sufficient evidence of her
wishes. Friends said that she would not want to be kept alive; a Missouri court
allowed her tube to be removed. She died 12 days later.
"Nancy Cruzan was also found to be in a persistent vegetative state," says
Kendall Coffey, former U.S. attorney in Miami now in private practice. "But the
family was in agreement. So you've got that extraordinary dynamic (in
Schiavo's case) of a bitter family disagreement."
Mintz says similar end-of-life cases, including one this year involving a
baby in Houston, have not resonated with the public because they did not have
the
element of family tension. The money, he told USA TODAY, has become "the
symbol of whether one is genuinely concerned about her interest."
Today, the money from the lawsuit settlement is almost gone, Grieco, the
attorney, says. Just $40,000 to $50,000 remained as of mid-March. The $700,000
in
Terri's trust has paid for her care, lawyers, expert medical witnesses.
Michael Schiavo's $300,000 share evaporated years ago, he says.
Views about life, death
Terri Schiavo left no instructions about her care. In such an instance,
Florida law requires a judge to follow a person's last wishes, if they can be
established.
In his order, Greer said he relied upon the testimony of five witnesses
regarding Terri's views about right-to-die issues. Schiavo, his older brother
Scott
and Joan Schiavo, wife of another of Schiavo's brothers, all said Terri had
said or indicated that she would not want to be kept alive if her brain stopped
working. Mary Schindler and Diane Meyer, a childhood friend of Terri's,
testified that she she would.
Scott Schiavo testified that after the 1988 funeral for his grandmother, who
was briefly kept alive on artificial life support, a clutch of relatives sat
around a luncheon table in Langhorne, Pa., talking about the way she had died.
"And Terri made mention ... that, 'If I ever go like that, just let me go.
Don't leave me there. I don't want to be kept alive on a machine.' "
Joan Schiavo testified that she and Terri, whom she described as "my best
friend and like a sister that I never had," had discussed artificial life
support
as many as 12 times. Joan Schiavo testified that she had a girlfriend who had
decided to take her baby off life support, and that Terri indicated she would
have done the same thing.
Mary Schindler's recollection of what her daughter wanted was different. She
testified that Terri had commented on news coverage of the case of Karen Ann
Quinlan, whose ventilator was turned off in 1976 after her parents went to the
New Jersey Supreme Court. Schindler said her daughter told her this about
Quinlan: "Just leave her alone. Leave her. If they take her off, she might die.
Just leave her alone and she will die whenever."
Contributing: Lawrence reported from Washington, D.C., Laura Parker in
McLean, Va., Associated Press

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