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卓越生命週刊
Excel Your Life Newsletter: Feb 21 2004

為提升你的生命而發行的電郵週刊...

Content:

I. From the eDesk of Dr. Keith To

II. Weekly Cut & Paste: 一杯豆漿的啟示

III. You Can Attend: 心理免疫學 (Psycho-Immunology)

IV. My Personal Development Tips: Top 5 Ways to Increase Your Self-
Awareness

V. Subscribe to our "Quote for Your Soul" Service

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I. From the eDesk of Dr. Keith To

Hi and welcome again.

1. Excel Your Life Newsletter 卓越生命週刊新形式： 由三月開始，

本電郵週刊將更新形式，每月首三週將以較簡短的形式發佈，但有

用資訊並不會減少，每月最後一週將以較詳盡的方式發佈有用資訊

及本中心訊息；我們亦會嘗試使用更多中文，以方便各位讀者．

在使用新形式後，希望各位閱讀本刊時變得更為容易．　

2. Audio Recording: Chinese New Year Free Seminar: How to Bullet-

Proof Yourself and Your Business.

We had conducted our CNY Free Seminar this Wednesday. Over 300 of our

friends joined us. If you missed it, you can listen to the audio recording of part

of the seminar. Please go to www.ExcelCentre.net/resources.htm to listen to

the mp3 recording of How to Bullet-Proof Yourself?

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II. Weekly Cut & Paste: 一杯豆漿的啟示

作者：胡怡謙

　　近年來，總是聽到許多人批評我們所處的社會病得很重，怨歎人

際間的疏離、年輕人的好逸惡勞、以及人心貪婪自私的聲音也時有所

聞。我們的社會難道真的如此乏善可陳嗎？我並不認為如此。

　　還記得那是在某天早上約莫１０點鐘左右，我挑著上班人潮剛剛

過去沒多久的時段搭公車出門。一路上，車上乘客不多，公車裡的情

景幾乎和往常一樣：乘客互不相識，無人交談，有人閉目養神，有人

欣賞窗外街景，也有人當下就閱讀起來。公車前方兩側單人座的乘客

，來去頻頻，許多人坐不了幾站就下車，騰出來的空位又被緊接著上

車的乘客填補上去；公車後方的雙人座卻變化不多，任由三、五位乘

客零散分坐著，我也在其中。車廂上方的幾排吊環，隨著車身重心的

改變，總是整齊劃一地前後搖晃，大家也都隨著司機先生熟練的開門

、關門、啟動、煞車的慣例循環動作，在心裡盤算著自己何時要按鈴

下車。

　　忽然，一記不大不小的聲響，將所有人的注意力集中起來。原來

，站在前方博愛座旁的一位乘客，不小心將手中的豆漿整杯灑落在地

板上。看似尚且溫熱的豆漿，沿著地板的弧度，慢慢流向下車必經的

前門。之後，凡是準備要下車的乘客，走到那一區莫不改用腳尖踩著

尚未被豆漿流經的畸零地面，小心翼翼地站在司機身旁刷付票卡，又

左移右挪地踏著階梯下車的。

　　這杯豆漿的主人，是一位年約２０歲的女孩。從她不安的肢體動

作，可看出她內心的焦急。全車乘客都摒息以待：一位原先戴著老花

眼鏡閱讀中的老先生，將眼鏡移到鼻端，皺著眉、仰角直視著她；坐

在車子後方的人也探頭出來盯著這位女孩看。只見這女孩連忙從背包

中拿出一小包面紙，一隻手抓扶著司機身旁的欄杆，躡手躡腳地走到

豆漿流散的最前端，彎下身，用另一隻手拿著面紙一張一張地想辦法

吸乾地上的豆漿。車子依舊前進著，顛簸的路面及無法預警的路況，

造成車身的晃動，也讓這位女孩的重心不穩而更不易擦拭。沒多久，

我發覺司機先生把車速調慢了些，車身也比原先平穩多了。

　　當女孩手中吸滿豆漿的面紙快要拿不住時，緊鄰女孩的一位女乘

客，低頭快速地從自己的皮包中挪出一只塑膠袋，她趕緊將塑膠袋撐

開之後，又伸手接下女孩手中那堆濕黏的面紙。女孩認真地向她點頭

道謝，又彎腰撿起裝豆漿的杯子塞在塑膠袋裡。

　　一小包面紙當然吸不了一杯３５０ＣＣ的液體。眼見女孩手中的

面紙即將用罄，一位坐在我身後的母親，突然起身往前，在車子行進

搖晃中、雙手交替抓扶著每個座椅上的扶手，走向那位女孩以便遞上

她口袋裡的衛生紙，途中還遇到另兩位分坐單人座的乘客也請這位母

親代為傳送自己捐出的面紙包。當女孩用手背將前額髮絲撥到耳後之

際，抬頭看見這位母親的來意，她感激地接下所有的面紙包，又一再

向這些熱心的乘客說謝謝。

　　司機先生終於說話了：「妳趕快坐好，不要再擦了。」從照後鏡

中看到司機忽左忽右地看著四方的路況，表情似乎有點兒緊張。女孩

低著頭不知回答了什麼，仍努力的擦著地上未乾的豆漿。司機先生又

重複了一遍，但女孩的動作依舊。

　　不久，女孩到站了，在車子停妥之後，她對著司機先生深深鞠了

一個躬，用愧疚細微的聲音說道：「對不起，司機先生，我把你的車

子弄髒了，真的很抱歉，我真的不是故意的。」司機先生把手煞車拉

住，側著身子轉向她：「東西灑了，等下我回站裡用水沖一沖就乾淨

了，你剛剛那樣子太危險了，車子搖搖晃晃的怎麼擦呢？如果妳沒抓

好扶手，為了一杯豆漿跌倒又受傷的話，那太划不來了。」這時，全

車乘客的注意力都轉向司機先生。「我開車要注意很多事情，又要有

一定的速度，才能讓乘客安全到站又不誤點。可是妳在那裡搖來搖去

的擦，我要注意妳的安全，又要注意所有的路況，還要想到車子的速

度，這樣子開起車來，會讓我分心的。如果發生意外，那就不只妳一

個人會有危險的。所以，我就一直叫妳不要再擦了，妳都不聽。」

　　聽完司機先生頗為憂心的回應，女孩低著頭說道：「對不起，司

機先生，我不是故意要讓你分心的，我只是怕有人踩到豆漿滑倒，所

以才一直想趕快把它擦乾的。讓你車子的地板黏黏的，真的很對不起

。」「沒關係啦！地板髒了很容易沖乾淨的，妳不用一直擔心啦！」

女孩又對司機先生鞠了個躬，也回身向車上的乘客說抱歉之後，才下

車離去。司機先生關上車門，將手煞車放下，繼續踩著油門往下一站

駛去。不知為什麼，車上的乘客好似這才鬆了一口氣，大家又回復到

原先的動作，車子裡的一切，彷彿又回到豆漿未灑前的光景。

　　這樣的生活片段，你感受到什麼了呢？

　　一段沒什麼大不了的生活瑣事？應該不止於此吧！

　　我看到的是：一位勇於面對自己失誤、盡力彌補改進的年輕新新

人類，一位處處為乘客安全著想、克盡職守的公車司機先生，以及一

群原本互無關連、卻因為一件細微的生活事件而將樂於助人的本性自

然流露的乘客。這些人的表現，正顯示出一項我們總以為在現今社會

中少見的真情 —— 為他人著想。

　　女孩害怕別人踩到豆漿滑倒而奮力擦拭，司機先生將乘客的安全

與福祉顧慮在心，其餘乘客則以將心比心的「同理心」關懷，立即伸

出援手來幫助女孩完成她的任務 ——不要讓別人滑倒。

　　一包小小的面紙，價值不高，但對有需要的人來說卻是個珍貴的

「及時雨」；一個輕踩油門的動作，簡單易做，卻對車上乘客的安全

提供多一分的保障；一杯１５元的豆漿，灑了也就算了，但若因此而

滑倒受傷，卻可能帶來當事人長期身心的苦痛，這也是那位女孩一直

耿耿於懷，希望趕快排除的隱憂。

　　一件不到１５分鐘的生活事件，不必特別花費與安排，居然可以

燃起人性互助的真情，並帶給旁觀者無盡的省思，這是多麼可遇不可

求啊！我有幸能像觀察員一般，靜靜地欣賞著這一群有緣同搭公車、

又有機會彼此互表關心的陌生人對這一事件的投入。至今，仍難忘這

一段意外的場景，也一直深深感謝這一群陌生人帶給我對人性良善的

高度信心，提醒自己不能因為與人互不認識，就逕予負面的價值判斷

，更不能輕忽他人對自己的用心，即使這個人只是個陌生人。

　　旁人短短１５分鐘的生活插曲，所帶來的啟示是如此，而我們每

天又有多少個１５分鐘可以提供我們省思與成長呢？我們是否也經常

放棄了這些可貴的學習機會呢？人際之間的自私冷漠固然讓人憂心，

但生活中隨處可見的人際真情互助與互諒，卻可能要比這些憂心多得

多，只是我們經常忽略了它的存在。如果你我願意在忙碌的生活中偶

爾停下腳步、靜下心來、細心觀察，認真體會身旁不斷發生的人事情

境，一定會有意想不到的驚喜與收穫！同時，相信你也會感受到：我

們的社會還是有很多說不盡的好，我們的社會還是充滿良善與希望的

。

　　不妨就從下一分鐘開始，好好體會周遭的一切。

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Editor's Remarks:

This is a story from Taiwan. I am not sure whether similar story will happen in

our city. But this is not important as the major point I wish to bring out is how we

can enhance our awareness.

The more you are aware of yourself and your surrounding, the more you can learn

from them. The key is that you must open your eyes wide enough to watch what

is happening around us. Then, you will discover so many great stories which you

never aware of before.

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III. You Can Attend: 心理免疫學 (Psycho-Immunology)

免疫能力越強，患病機會就越少，身體亦越健康，

患病康復亦越快。

根據 Glaser 1999年的研究，心理壓力大的病人的免疫

細胞數量遠低於心理壓力少的病人。

Ohio State University 的研究發現，需要照顧長期病患親

屬的人士，患嚴重感冒的機會大大高出其他人，原

因相信在於照顧他人的龐大壓力。

Pennebakor於 1986年研究所得，願意吐露心事的人是更

快樂更健康。

Cohen 1993年發現，情緒負面的人比情緒正面的人體

內病毒的增長率快超過 10%。

在本單元內你將理解心理因素如何影響人體的免疫

功能，你更會學懂多種身心理技術提升人體的免疫

能力。

日期： 28/02/2004 (星期六 )、 29/02/2004 (星期日 )
時間：星期六 2:30pm - 7:30pm；星期日 10:00am-6:00pm

報名： 2835-4396 聖雅各福群會

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IV. My Personal Development Tips: Top 5 Ways to Increase Your Self-

Awareness

by Keith To

The more you understand yourself, the greater you can develop yourself. We do

this through self-awareness. Why are we always getting into similar kinds of

troubles? Why similar bad things happen to us again and again? The causes all lie

within us.

The best investment in ourselves is not to learn some new skills or knowledge. It

is to invest more time and effort in understanding ourselves. Here is my top 5

ways I always use to learn more from myself.

1. Slow down. In modern days, nearly all of us live in a super-fast pace. I enjoy
the feeling of speed, too. From time to time, we need to slow down a bit to see
what's happening within and without ourselves. I like to go to hair-cut. You can
do nothing during that hour. I don't read magazines or chat with the stylist. I just
enjoy my time to introspect myself. Every time I can get some great understanding
from that hour.

2. Stay alone. Going for a walk in the park or countryside once a week alone
with yourself can be of great fun and useful. There are so many distractions
outside of us that we can't see things clearly. Stay alone for an hour or so once
a week.

3. Postpone judgment. We always judge too soon. Before we collect enough
information about others or situations, we make judgement. Most of the times
our prematured judgements are turning up to be wrong.

More importantly, after the judgement had been made, we stopped collecting
further information. We can become open-minded only when we postpone our
judgement.

4. Question yourself. We have a lot of intelligence and wisdom hiding deep
inside us. We can't make use of any of them until we question ourselves to get
the answers. Then we must ask ourselves again whether the answers are
reasonable or not. This is learning.

5. Do your journalling. You do not need to write down every details of the
day. You do not even need to fix a time for your daily journalling. Just write
down what comes into your mind on a note book. Reviewing what you wrote
down can be very inspiring.

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