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Excel Your Life Newsletter: March 28 2003

I. From the Desk of Dr. Keith To

Hi and welcome again.

1. I like to congratulate our 13 new graduates from the Certfied Self Hypnosis Instructor Training (completed this Monday). They had acquired all the knowledge and skill to train others in Self Hypnosis, which I believe to be one of the most effective self improvement technologies. These 13 new instructors will certainly contribute their best to help others to help themselves.

Our new Certified Self Hypnosis Instructors are:

Sonia Chan

Andy Tse

Jack Yau

Raymond Chan

Timothy Chan

Chan Tai Wai

Posy So

Aileen Siu

Thomas Kwan

Simon Sng

Joanne Kwok

Wong Chi Yan

Kanny Chou

Stephen Wong (To Be Graduated)

Congratulation!!!

2. I will be out of town for 12 days this Friday. This is my Mid Year Refreshment Trip. For those who had attended the Perfect Life Coaching, you know that I raised my standard of living to enjoy 3 overseas trips every year. Life is to be enjoyed. No matter that you are rich or poor. If you really live your life, you have a rich life. I am going to take some great photos to share with you in coming issues.

II. Activities Updating

1. I am planning a series of really low cost business seminars in the coming furture. The aim of this new series to enhance our members' profitability and "employability". If you are a business owner, I hope this new series of seminars can boost up your sales and profit. If you are an employee, the new skills you learn can enhance your effectiveness os that you are more "employable". My wish is no more business closing down and unemployment, at least within our circle. Further information to be announced shortly.

2. Recently, some of you had emailed me asking me when I will re-organize the Scientific Meditation Workshop as they had missed it last month. Now, please mark down the date on your calendar. Only next coming Scientific Meditation Workshop is scheduled on April 14 & 28 at 7:30pm to 9:30pm. Email keithto@... for reserving your seat.

This Scientific Meditation Workshop is also the Step 1 of the Alpha Programming Techniques. You are going to learn how to program your and other's mind for perfect functioning. To make more people can be benefited from Meditation, the course fee is still HK$500 only. If you want more information about the workshop, send a blank email to scientificmeditation@.... This will be a very small group training.

Only 20 will be accepted. In our last workshop, we had nearly 50 satisfactory participants. Enrol Now by emailing keithto@.... You can pay on the date of training. You have our Money Back Guarantee. Trust me, this will be one of your best training you have ever attended.

3. Our Certified Hypnotherapist Training 2003 will start April 13 2003. If you want to be a Certified Hypnotherapist to help yourself and others, enrol Now. Call Kanny at 2135-8734 for more details or call Mr. John Lau at 2835-4396 for enrollment. Attached please find the introduction brochure for this program.

III. Weekly Cut & Paste: 山中藏寺

作者：不詳

有位畫家朋友曾提到，初學畫時，老師跟他說了個很短的故事，卻對他此後繪畫之路，有頗大的影響。

故事是這樣的：某次畫圖比賽，有來自各方的許多畫圖好手參加，題目是：「山中藏寺」。

許多參賽者一看到題目，就毫不思索地下筆，彷彿是十分熟稔的畫題，揮灑神速；也有人搖頭晃腦；有人對著畫布發呆，像是沈思構圖的模樣；更有人塗塗改改，修修潤潤。

但多半畫的都是高山峻嶺中，有座清樸古雅的小寺，或是座落山巔，或是群山簇擁，畫布上幾乎不外山林、雲朵、寺院等等。

不過，場中有個人卻是聞題不動，到時間所剩不多時，才從容下筆，完成他的畫作，最後，脫穎而出得到第一名，得到評審一致的同意。

為什麼會得到一致的讚賞？他畫的是什麼呢？

十分簡單，他的畫布上，只有一個小和尚出來挑水，背後是一大片叢林。會得到評審一致的青睞，在於切題和意境。

所有的參賽者都將寺院躍然紙上，而忘了畫題是：山中「藏」寺；而冠軍用和尚點出「藏」字，即是高明之處──因為有和尚就有寺啊！

一位畫家，重要的是敏感度，有了敏感的心，才能在畫布上，營造出意境，收畫龍點睛之效。

有時在想，人們之間的溝通障礙就在粗心吧，只對自己關心、在意的敏感，卻常忽略別人的想法和感受，因此常發生誤解，無法真正達到溝通的效果。

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如果，能時時把「自己」適度地往後放一點，就如佛家所言的「去我執」，或許人相處起來會更融洽、有「意境」，這應該就是一種藝術吧！

IV. News Cutting of the Week: 袋外更多石

Kanny Chou

從前，倫敦有一位商人，欠下巨款，債主故作仁慈，開出免債條件，先將兩粒石子放在布袋內，如果商人抽中白石子，便不用還債，但如果抽中黑石子，卻要多還一倍債務。商人答應後，債主就地拾起兩粒黑石子放進袋內，如果你是商人，明知內裏並無白石，你會怎樣做？以直線思考，當然拒絕，但商人二話不說，欣然接受，抽出石子後，鬆手把石子掉落黑白石堆中，是黑是白，立即分別不出來。結果，由於袋內只剩黑石子，債主不能承應出千，商人大條道理，不用還債。這個刊於三月十七日經濟日報的故事，充滿智慧，實在值得反思。

我們傾向將一些事物分門別類，有些心理學家曾將數十人以抽籤形式分組，結果組與組之間很快就出現了互相競爭的局面，他們似乎忘記了大家本來只是獨立個體，與對方跟本沒有產生任何關係，亦沒有任何利益衝突，只是被人隨意分開兩組，就形成了所謂 in-group 及 out-group 的衝突。就如那債主隨手拿起兩粒石子，我們就會將注意力集中在該兩粒石子上，而忽略了地上那堆石子了。

這個以直線思考的模式，令我想起曾經在電視裏看過一種金龜子 (昆蟲科-以吃動物糞便為生)為了手上那一點食物而互相打鬥，而牠們的戰場就在一堆米田共上！不要以為牠們很蠢，有時人類也會因過份集中在那一丁點的利益而成為金龜子！

似乎能夠像那倫敦商人一樣，將注意力轉移至更大的框架，是其中一個致勝之道！

V. My Management Tip: Take a Moment!

The following are some difficult but vital questions to ask yourself.

Have You Been Acting Like the Manager/Leader You Want To Be?

Are you out of touch with the feelings of the people you work with?

Have you been over emphasizing "getting results"?

Do you feel like you are following orders on how you "should" manage people instead of being more authentic?

Does your managerial style stay the same regardless of the situation or the person?

Have you forgotten that "feeling good" is the best fuel for mental efficiency?

VI. New Service from the Excel Centre: The Friday Laugh

Life seems to be too difficult to many people nowadays in Hong Kong. We need more laughters. So, I decided to start a new email list service, the Friday Laugh. When you subscribe to this new service, you will get some good jokes every Friday. Some are in English and some are in Chinese. Mostly clean ones. We just need more laughters.

Subscribe Free of charge by sending a blank email to FridayLaugh-subscribe@yahoogroups.com. Enjoy your fridays and your weeks.

Keith To
Your Success Partner
www.keithto.com

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Keith To
Your Success Partner
www.keithto.com

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