--- In epilepsyalternatives@yahoogroups.com, "Jennifer" <banshee_girl2002@...>
wrote:
>
> --- In epilepsyalternatives@yahoogroups.com, "Louise" <mtt5nf@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi, I'm new to the group. A couple of weeks ago I had a tonic clonic
seizure. Then everyone was and still is nicer to me; anyone from people I work
for and with, to my son and daughter in law, even to the neighbours because they
hear me at times talk about it. Whereas, none of them were that nice to me
before. No intent to be sarcastic here, I am trying to understand people's
change of heart and attitude towards me. It seems as if it weren't for the
seizure, everyone would be as cold and distant towards me as before it happened.
Am I not good withOUT having epilepsy? Or is it all just pity, poor me
attitude, which is even worse because that makes me feel like a defect, unequal
to everyone else around me.
> >
> > It's great to be treated nice, trusted and so on. but I am trying to
understand, why it seems people thought of me so negatively before and now I am
not so bad, even though I've been the same whether it happened or not.
> > The same thing happend to me when I started having sezures. I didn't start
having seizures until I was 14 yrs old. I was a star athlete. Captain of my
basketball, soccer and volleyball team and then I strarted having them. I fell
during a basketball tournament and hit the back of my head on the concrete
floor. My cousins only talk to me now because they feel sorry for me. I am now
25 and a single mom. I only get invited to famly get-togethers because they feel
sorry for me. One of my cousins told me that I was too imature for my age. I may
be a little slow but I'm still smart and I can still kick butt in sports. I
still have feelings too and it does hurt knowing that people feel sorry for you
and that people are talking about you behind your back. It is hard to ignore.
I'm having a hard time finding a job. I got fired from my job because I was a
iabitilty.
> > I thank you for your response to help me understand this and get me out of
this confusion.
> >
> > Louise
> >
>I'm sorry that people are treating you differently. It is very hard. It is also
hard for our family to deal with also. They are scared and don't know what to
say and do. I lost a husband because of it. I was "too hard to handle". You
will start finding out who is your true friends. Let people know how you feel.
Tell them to stop treating you differently and have them ask you questions.
People are scared of things they don't know. I don't have any friends at all. My
two sisters are the only people I talk to about things to. I don't get to go
hang out and do fun things. I lost all my friends. I joined the epilepsy
foundation hoping to meet people who are going through the same things I am
going through.