--- In epilepsyalternatives@yahoogroups.com, "Louise" <mtt5nf@...> wrote:
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> Hi, I'm new to the group. A couple of weeks ago I had a tonic clonic seizure.
Then everyone was and still is nicer to me; anyone from people I work for and
with, to my son and daughter in law, even to the neighbours because they hear me
at times talk about it. Whereas, none of them were that nice to me before. No
intent to be sarcastic here, I am trying to understand people's change of heart
and attitude towards me. It seems as if it weren't for the seizure, everyone
would be as cold and distant towards me as before it happened. Am I not good
withOUT having epilepsy? Or is it all just pity, poor me attitude, which is
even worse because that makes me feel like a defect, unequal to everyone else
around me.
>
> It's great to be treated nice, trusted and so on. but I am trying to
understand, why it seems people thought of me so negatively before and now I am
not so bad, even though I've been the same whether it happened or not.
> The same thing happend to me when I started having sezures. I didn't start
having seizures until I was 14 yrs old. I was a star athlete. Captain of my
basketball, soccer and volleyball team and then I strarted having them. I fell
during a basketball tournament and hit the back of my head on the concrete
floor. My cousins only talk to me now because they feel sorry for me. I am now
25 and a single mom. I only get invited to famly get-togethers because they feel
sorry for me. One of my cousins told me that I was too imature for my age. I may
be a little slow but I'm still smart and I can still kick butt in sports. I
still have feelings too and it does hurt knowing that people feel sorry for you
and that people are talking about you behind your back. It is hard to ignore.
I'm having a hard time finding a job. I got fired from my job because I was a
iabitilty.
> I thank you for your response to help me understand this and get me out of
this confusion.
>
> Louise
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