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Re: [encself] Digest Number 191
Dear Barbara,
I wish I could have attended your teleclass, I believe I could learn from it as well as come away feeling very good about life... and me. I had hoped to attended but the job was too much at the time. I look forward to the one (if at all possible) that you are considering for after 5:30 p.m. California time.
The term override has different connotations for many. When we have an experience that has been difficult we have to process it at many levels. I totally agree with you that it is more than a mental process, it is physical as well. I have been in various situations throughtout my life when I must still face a person or a situation that has become uncomfortable (mildly to severely uncomfortable). I tried running away from it... doesn't work, that opens up a whole new area of insecurities and guilt. I have tried ignoring it....I have come to the conclusion that one must deal with it and face it and take the best parts of the experience and accept. Accept that I have the power to put a positive outcome on an uncomfortable or even scary situation. When you are have a physical reaction to the situation a conscious effort is needed to label the feelings and where it is coming from. Once you know why the reaction then you can start working on "overriding" it and replacing it with a good reaction, better feeling. Deep breathing for the anxiety, a funny thought or memory can help, and just accepting that you can do this for yourself. That the outcome will be better. If not, accept that you did your best and perhaps it would be better to pick apples on another day. I believe that it takes practice and small steps toward being able to override some of our difficulties in life. When we accomplish it and are able to be back in that situation we need to accept the good feelings that we have. It does take practice and a conscious effort to not only accept our feelings and our reaction (good or not so good) but to accept the the reactions or actions of others that were instrumental in the situation to begin with. Only then can we pick apples again.
Thanks for the thought provoking word.
Enjoy the day
Kathy
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