Hi Patrick,

I couldn't agree with Bernie more. Maybe you should focus on your
individuality ... find something that makes you unique, special.

The Enchanted Self teaches us to look into our childhood for hidden
talents that can reemerge with us as adults. Did you have something
special that you were espcially gifted at or enjoyed as a child? You
know, sometimes when we follow our childhood dreams, these things
turn into careers, and people who are doing what they love
(especially for a living) are never considered 'losers'! For
example, I took my love of computer work and turned it into a
successful work at home business. The possibilities for YOU are
endless.

I am of the opinion that people who feel 'different' and become
labeled as a 'loser' are just seriously misunderstood. If you learn
to think that YOU are special others will see you that way too!

Hang in there and let us know how you are doing ... one step at a
time.

Rebecca

--- In encself@y..., "earthsong911" <medievalb@e...> wrote:
> Hi Patrick,
>
> I wish that I could send you the quick solution to your problem of
low
> self esteem, but unfortunately there isn't one. Like anything worth
> having, it's something we all have to work on & it takes time.
>
> Try to keep in mind that many famous people were once considered
> "freaks" & "losers" (Does Abraham Lincoln & Bill Gates ring a
bell?) &
> I'm sure they went through rough times in their lives. But, they
took
> the talents & abilities they had, worked hard to improve on them &
> eventually they reaped the rewards. Were they losers? Were they
> freaks? No, not at all.
>
> We're all blessed with the gifts of individuality - we are all very
> different people - no two of us alike & that makes life
interesting;
> so it's our job to find what it is that is so special about
ourselves
> (& there IS something in you Patrick - as in all of us) & develop
it.
> Also try to remember that the most important person in your life is
> you - & when you learn to love yourself, because you are special &
> deserve it, your self-esteem will grow. Know your limitations &
accept
> them, knowing that noone is perfect, & concentrate on your gifts!
>
> Good luck to you!
> Berni
>
>
>
>
>
> --- In encself@y..., "nicebcguy2001" <nicebcguy2001@y...> wrote:
> > hi my name is Patrick and I have rather low self esteem.I was
> > wondering what i could do about it.I also have borderline
> perosnality
> > disorder which makes me feel like a freak a nobody a loser
etc .if
> > anyone can help please reply to t