This kind of abuse can change you-make you into a different person-and,
not necessarily a better person.

Sometime in the future, you may find yourself passing on this abuse to
others-those who are abused often go on to abuse others.

R Blake

>From: "Bonessa" <interstate_goddess@...>
>Reply-To: emotionalabuse@yahoogroups.com
>To: emotionalabuse@yahoogroups.com
>Subject: [Emotional Abuse] Re: questions
>Date: Fri, 10 Dec 2004 02:53:38 -0000
>
>
>One of the first things that an abuser does is isolate his target
>from friends, family and any kind of support system that the target
>might turn to for help.
>
>--- In emotionalabuse@yahoogroups.com, "April" <ardclem@y...> wrote:
> >
> > Hi group,
> > I am new here but...I need some help.I feel that I am in an
> > emotionally abusive relationship and sometimes i don't think it is
>so
> > bad so I stay.
> > I wonder if any one has experienced a partner who tries to make
>you
> > feel unwelcome with his family, or seems to be the devisive
>factor,
> > seems to be the reason they don't like you. Twice recently I have
> > wanted to visit his family with him. He has told me no, that he
>was
> > to go alone, for reasons like 'he doesn't like you, I don't want
>to
> > make him mad' and 'I want time alone with them', family in town
>that
> > he has seen and spent time with and that I have not, that I really
> > like and would love to see before they leave town.
> >
> > This all sounds so simple and silly. But it leaves me feeling
> > terribly isolated and like I am not welcome with the family that I
> > thought I was marrying into, as well as feeling like something is
> > wrong with me so he has to protect his family from me. He has
> > humiliated me in front of them, he tells them our problems when I
>am
> > not there. He teases me constantly, people think he is just
>playing
> > around, they don't realize he does it all the time. They think he
> > just has a great sense of humor, at my expense.
> >
> > anyway, some bad stuff has happened lately, like yesterday, that
>left
> > me feeling terribly empty. I acted out violently in complete rage
> > after he treated me so bad...I destroyed his favorite house plant,
> > just went to town on it. I do throw things on occasion and slam
> > doors. I have worked on this childish reaction to things. But this
>is
> > different and I am frightened. Not only by my reaction, but what
>the
> > payback will be.
> >
> > April
>
>
>