One of the first things that an abuser does is isolate his target
from friends, family and any kind of support system that the target
might turn to for help.

--- In emotionalabuse@yahoogroups.com, "April" <ardclem@y...> wrote:
>
> Hi group,
> I am new here but...I need some help.I feel that I am in an
> emotionally abusive relationship and sometimes i don't think it is
so
> bad so I stay.
> I wonder if any one has experienced a partner who tries to make
you
> feel unwelcome with his family, or seems to be the devisive
factor,
> seems to be the reason they don't like you. Twice recently I have
> wanted to visit his family with him. He has told me no, that he
was
> to go alone, for reasons like 'he doesn't like you, I don't want
to
> make him mad' and 'I want time alone with them', family in town
that
> he has seen and spent time with and that I have not, that I really
> like and would love to see before they leave town.
>
> This all sounds so simple and silly. But it leaves me feeling
> terribly isolated and like I am not welcome with the family that I
> thought I was marrying into, as well as feeling like something is
> wrong with me so he has to protect his family from me. He has
> humiliated me in front of them, he tells them our problems when I
am
> not there. He teases me constantly, people think he is just
playing
> around, they don't realize he does it all the time. They think he
> just has a great sense of humor, at my expense.
>
> anyway, some bad stuff has happened lately, like yesterday, that
left
> me feeling terribly empty. I acted out violently in complete rage
> after he treated me so bad...I destroyed his favorite house plant,
> just went to town on it. I do throw things on occasion and slam
> doors. I have worked on this childish reaction to things. But this
is
> different and I am frightened. Not only by my reaction, but what
the
> payback will be.
>
> April