Hi group,
I am new here but...I need some help.I feel that I am in an
emotionally abusive relationship and sometimes i don't think it is so
bad so I stay.
I wonder if any one has experienced a partner who tries to make you
feel unwelcome with his family, or seems to be the devisive factor,
seems to be the reason they don't like you. Twice recently I have
wanted to visit his family with him. He has told me no, that he was
to go alone, for reasons like 'he doesn't like you, I don't want to
make him mad' and 'I want time alone with them', family in town that
he has seen and spent time with and that I have not, that I really
like and would love to see before they leave town.

This all sounds so simple and silly. But it leaves me feeling
terribly isolated and like I am not welcome with the family that I
thought I was marrying into, as well as feeling like something is
wrong with me so he has to protect his family from me. He has
humiliated me in front of them, he tells them our problems when I am
not there. He teases me constantly, people think he is just playing
around, they don't realize he does it all the time. They think he
just has a great sense of humor, at my expense.

anyway, some bad stuff has happened lately, like yesterday, that left
me feeling terribly empty. I acted out violently in complete rage
after he treated me so bad...I destroyed his favorite house plant,
just went to town on it. I do throw things on occasion and slam
doors. I have worked on this childish reaction to things. But this is
different and I am frightened. Not only by my reaction, but what the
payback will be.

April