I'm 51 and worked for a chiropractor 34. I had 33 years of experience
in chiropractic and a year and a half working for a Law firm. It was
fine for the first 2 weeks and I understood when he hovered around
the desk at first. I tried to reassure him that I knew what I was
doing and I did ask for help on somethings. He started to get more
controlling then. If I wrote a letter he would said it was awful and
he would do it himself. This happened time after time until I quit
doing it.When I tried to talk to him about things he got angry and
walked away. The problem was mine and he didn't want to hear it. He
blamed me for everything no matter what. It was my fault that he
wasn't getting enough patients. It was my fault that people weren't
coming back to see him. On and on. Nothing I said or did was right. I
was so afraid to do anything in front of him that I made more
mistakes. I told him I was afraid of him and that he intimidated me.
He would not talk to me. Again it was my fault so I tried harder. I
came in early, worked through my lunch hour and stayed late trying to
figure out what I was doing wrong. Nohting helped but the blame
continued. He made me feel so uncomfortable. He was always coming up
to me and hugging me suddenly. I was afraid to tell him not to. He
asked me out to lunch but I found excuses not to after going out with
him twice and I found excuses not to have him adjust me which made
him more angry still. I was not sleeping more than an hour each night.
I stopped eating for days and my physcial health went down hill. I
was getting migraines regularly. My neck, shoulders and arms hurts so
much that I could hardly stand it and when I told him about it he
just laugh and say how good the weight loss was and could he buy me a
gym membership so I could lose the rest. Not once did he suggest that
I go see a doctor. I stuck it out because he made me feel so badly
that I knew that no one else would hire me. He played on that as well
always commenting on how old I was. He finally fired me saying I
wasn't doing enough. I went out to lunch with 2 female patients and
he was angry because I should have been going with someone to promote
his business instead. He didn't like me talking to the patients as he
was the star and wanted to be in the spotlight at all times. He
demanded my full attention at all times and he became angry when I
didn't give it to him. I feel this was abuse but was it only me?