--- In duanes@yahoogroups.com, Natalie Moseley <ncmoseley@...> wrote:
>I have to agree - not everyone can adapt. My son could not accept
his duane's. He is 22 and had surgery last May as the Duanes eye
was causing him a lot of problems - not just cosmetically though.
He started having double vision and problems with his back due to
the face turn. If surgery had been available when he was much
younger, I think we would have opted for it too. At that time, we
were told nothing could be done. It is a difficult decision, but a
personal one. Joyce

> Your experience may differ from that of many others. Our decision
to proceed with surgery was based on several medical opinions and
what was best for our child. The point of early surgery is that it
has better results and the child is less likely to remember having
the operation. Also, as infants not all of our pain receptors are
active, so something that would be very painful for an adult is less
so for a child.
>
> Each parent needs to come to this decision on their own. Just
because you learned to adapt does not mean that every child will. As
a child I was tormented because of a mole I had on my face. My
parents decided to get it removed. The scar I have is better than
the mole in many ways. It reminds me that people can be cruel but
there are things out there to lessen the embarrasment if you want it.
>
> And punctuation would help others to understand your point.
>
> janusjaclyn <janusjaclyn@...>
wrote: who cares what anybody
thinks im 22 and i have had duanes syndrome
> since i was born and i wasnt ridiculed for having it surgery at
that
> young of age is terrible if its not affecting her health who
cares its
> just her outer appearance if anything shell have more confidence
with
> herself and not care what anybody thinks people are mean yes we
all
> know that if anything shell be unique i just cant believe people
care
> so much about something so little and as you get older you learn
how
> to control it like i did
>