Your experience may differ from that of many others. Our decision to proceed with surgery was based on several medical opinions and what was best for our child. The point of early surgery is that it has better results and the child is less likely to remember having the operation. Also, as infants not all of our pain receptors are active, so something that would be very painful for an adult is less so for a child.

Each parent needs to come to this decision on their own. Just because you learned to adapt does not mean that every child will. As a child I was tormented because of a mole I had on my face. My parents decided to get it removed. The scar I have is better than the mole in many ways. It reminds me that people can be cruel but there are things out there to lessen the embarrasment if you want it.

And punctuation would help others to understand your point.

janusjaclyn <janusjaclyn@...> wrote:

who cares what anybody thinks im 22 and i have had duanes syndrome
since i was born and i wasnt ridiculed for having it surgery at that
young of age is terrible if its not affecting her health who cares its
just her outer appearance if anything shell have more confidence with
herself and not care what anybody thinks people are mean yes we all
know that if anything shell be unique i just cant believe people care
so much about something so little and as you get older you learn how
to control it like i did