Entry for November 09, 2006
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want
you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man's behavior.

If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave
him alone.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant
to be.

Don't force an attraction.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly
happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't
mistreat a friend.

Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith
make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.

Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship-take that as a
BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man
like that?

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a
whole lot of mess.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different
women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he
treat you any differently?

You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince

Always put yourself and your happiness first.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers
you, speak up. That's what you have a mouth for. HELLO!!

Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just
isn't that interested.

Be honest and up-front.

Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.

Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the
situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move
on)

If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he
treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).

There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental
abuse. If he causes any of them ... flee.

You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.

Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow
himself -- double-standard.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are ... even
if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing
less.

Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!

Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted
to what they see.

If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away
and if you feel he's lying, let him go.

Actions speak louder than words.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt
you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.

To use painful hard-won wisdom-'get it right' the next time.

Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of
the #1 person in your life.

Love is a verb.

Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone
unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-
loving.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending ... compromise is a
two way street.

If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.

You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.

You need time to heal between relationships ... there is nothing
cute about baggage .. deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you ... a
relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals ... look for someone
complimentary ... not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.

Never become your man's "therapist".

When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the
actions.

A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can mend
it* but it takes two to make it work.!

Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type" ... when a man loves
you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't
do for you.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.

Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure
him to spend time with you, You can't force a man to hang out with
you.

If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

Never move into his mother's house.

Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone

Never co-sign for a man.

Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.

Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.

Never let a man mess up your credit.

When it's time to let go; let go.

Good men should be treated like good men

Don't play games.

You can't make a whore into a housewife - or husband.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you
need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs,
personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important

Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.

Never believe a man who says "that's just my baby momma", you can
be sure, there'll be drama.

Never believe a man that tells u he want to be with you, while he's
with someone else, - if he wanted to be with you, he would make it
happen more sooner than later.

Don't be a man's door mat , make him open the door for you, because
a real man would do this on his own.

Dealings with a married man, most likely wont work out in your
favor.

There is someone out there worthy to be in your life, let out the
trash so he can come in.


Thursday November 9, 2006 - 07:26pm (PST) Edit | Delete | Permanent
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ready to cause some murder (just an expression) and mayhem
today was the first day i have ever had the displeasure of being
stuck in traffic not just half an hour but 2 1/2 FLINKIN!! hours
not fun or enjoyable and why is it that the dickwads way behind the
line figure if they rush down the ending lane at 80 kms they should
be let in?? and why is it the the idiots ahead of me who have been
sitting for the same 2 1/2 hours let these dickwads in?? Wednesday
November 8, 2006 - 06:58pm (PST) Edit | Delete | Permanent Link | 1


here in Calgary we have the month of october set aside for breast
cancer awareness -- and one of the local radio stations has a "BRAS
FOR THE CAUSE" campaign so the local charity i work for took up the
cause for me (a 11 year survivor) and we collected bras and bras and
more bras -- i was thrilled to go in there with 3 huge sacks -- not
so thrilled to b interviewed but whatever -- looking at this
realistically each one of those bras represents one woman--what a
concept -- and then if u factor in 1 in every 9 women will be
affected by this disease its even more astounding-- so here is my
call out to all my friends i am asking that you send me ALL YOUR
BRAS!!!! every single one you no longer wear your old tired
uncomfortable ones the ones that are collecting dust in the back of
your drawers so that next october i can present an entire truckload
whereas they will recieve 1$ per bra -- what an amazing feat this
would be -- so LADIES help me out we have till next October to fill
a truck