Dear Crys, I really feel for you! It is very
difficult, probably even more so for family members and
loved ones of those suffering from depression. My first
question for you is: does this person you are dating know
and aware that he is seriously depressed? If he is in
denile or not really aware that he has a chemical
problem, he may take your help and support the wrong way.
It's best to approach this sort of person very slowly
and creatively to show what is going on. Perhaps
mimic their behavior and words trying to pull things
out of the "dark whole." Either way, try showing this
person how fun life can be. Force him to get out more
and try new things. He may find that with your
support and admiration he is really missing out in life.
Do be very supportive and caring with the drug
therapy he may be recieving...this is probably his best
route at this point. The drugs out there now are very
effective at treating his ailment, however, they can be
slow in acting and he may need to try others. I also
would suggest to you to give him more information about
depression and also get more information for yourself. There
are many support groups out there and counselors for
you and him to see. The internet alone is chalked
full of wonderful stuff, at least for his sake, to
realize what he is going through is very real, very okay
and very treatable. <br><br>Please hang in there and
remember to always show your support because that is most
important. Lastly, have as much patience as you can, even
though you are getting tired of it...for the path to
health is not easy or quick. <br><br>Also, do let me
know if you need some good links on the internet or
more information, I'd be glad to get you
some!<br><br>Sincerely, Dave.