If our fathers misdirected anger toward us, we may be attracted to men who rage at us. If our mothers abandoned us emotionally or physically, we may choose partners who will sooner or later abandon us. Some of us seek out friends who are submissive and misdirect our anger toward them. We find jobs with bosses who order us around just as our parents did, campaign for government leaders who suppress us with laws, and join churches with sermonizing ministers. How often we hear the tragic story of a seemingly gentle person who goes off on a spree and kills a few of these authority figures. Some, who were taught to believe in a judgmental God, join monasteries and flagellate themselves with hourly "mea culpa" prayers. We seek persons in authority who will abuse and judge us, or we strive to be authorities and abuse others. We become abusive parents, doctors, priests, judges, and lawmakers--even dictators. We project our parents onto our children and to those we oppress—all in at! tempts to have our justifiable anger. The redirecting self-therapy allows us to direct anger to all persons who abused us and/or caused us to suppress anger, but it is primarily about redirecting anger to our parents or early caretakers, because our anger at current abusers has more to do with those early relationships.