If anyone is trapped in an abusive relationship, it may not be easy to
find a safe place to use the self help measures, and they may even
aggravate the relationship. Hopefully, an abusive partner will be
interested in this recovery. If not, Alanon is available with its
"detach with love" technique that can relieve tensions. I'm not
supportive of suppressing the anger this way, but it may be necessary
temporarily.
Ellie