I see I need to correct the way I put this in my prvious post.

All the addictions are based on the primary addiction to people.
What happens in 12-step programs is that our addictions are
transferred to people, and we form co-dependent relationships
ad nauseam. Co-dependency is the underlying addiction,
a merry-go-round of relationships that can never be happy,
but are useful as opportunitiesto release and redirect anger
at parent substitutes. Once you know thisand use the self help
measures to redirect your anger, you will heal
from co-dependency and all overlying addictioins.
Ellie

Please allow me to correct this and say

Co-dependencies can never be happy "as co-dependencies"--
this does not mean they cannot change and become happy.
Ellie

It's nice not being perfect.
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