>
> I spent over 60 years in relationships, either living with someone or
> married, and was desperately lonely. Since post-flood and for the
first
> time, I've been living alone and NEVER feel lonely--not to say it is
> best to live alone, but if this is what happens for some of us, there
> will be no loneliness.
Ellie

Hmmm. This is interesting because I was desperately lonely all my life
until the Christmas of 1996 after I got the restraining order against
the ogre, and suddenly the loneliness was GONE. I don't know where it
went. I had been suffering so much in that relationship, and then I
suffered so much when it was over, and I also lost the man I loved (not
the ogre) at the same time. I wrote a play about how I felt... my first

play. That's all I did for about two months was write this play. And
my female character fully expressed all the hate and anger and
bitterness and despair and craziness and grief I was feeling and acted
what she was feeling out on the male character, and it was so
cathartic. When I finished the play I felt I had finished with the ogre

and the other man. And somehow the loneliness was gone and has never
returned. In fact, I don't want anyone around. I'm having much too
good a time getting to know myself.
Love,
Valerie

What a great story of healing,--getting the anger out at those who hurt
you in relationships and I'll bet those men who weren't there for you
were father substitues, a father who couldn't be there for you either.
You were using the self-help measures long before I found them. The
discovery of the biology just supports what people have been doing
intuitively for a long time.. Thanks for sharing this.
Ellie



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