Hi Ellie,

I do yard work for about 4-5 hours per day- as I'm pulling weeds or exerting myself, is that when I think about my parents/past abusers- if so, how do I refer to them in my thoughts? Or, do I not think of them, and just do the work?

I seem to be improving by doing the physical exercise. However I am not improving in my gratefulness and love towards my parents, and this really bothers me.

Help!

Hi, sounds like a great time to get some anger out. Definitely think about them when you yank out those weeds. Maybe pretend you're yanking out their hair, and get mad!

Don't worry about feelings of love and gratitude now. This is "a time to hate." Only months from now when all your repressed anger is out, will you have love and gratitude on a sustained basis.

Ellie