Thank you Roe. But I think we should wait till all the reddish hair is cut off.
This wont be
long to wait now. I am not minding having shorter hair.
When it is really natural all over, and when I am not having any foils, I will
grow it long
again. That will be the real me.
Is anyone else having an interesting time at makeup counters? [not that I've
ever spent
much time at them, but lately, because I am changing, I have been looking at the
colours]
I get contradictory advice about what my colouring is. I think I need to wear a
cooler pink
and more subtle colours now. I love it. With dyed hair I had to cover up
everything
because my hair and my skin didn't match.
Anne
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "Roe" <goegroups@...> wrote:
>
> Anne (England) wrote:
>
> Anne,
> It looks great I am so happy for you!! Are you ready for the Winner's
> Circle?
>
> I am going to go eahead and put you in!
>
> Roe
>
Lisa wrote:
>I've been told that my hair will be curlier when it isn't dyed.
Lisa,
I sooooo know what you mean. I am 48 and I went through my life
practically not needing conditioner. But as I got older I remember
always appreciating the richer conditioner that is usually applied
after coloring.
When I stopped coloring I felt for the first time (except once when I
tried a mild relaxer in my 30s) that I needed to condition.
What I do now is to put the richest conditioner I can find for when I
wash my hair put also after I towel dry I put a leave-in conditioner
with sea butter as a main ingredient. It comes in a wide mouthed tub.
I got it in the isle where they have afro-american hair products. I
figured I had nothing to lose by trying it. The smell is pleasant
and it goes away a few minutes after the application. I can't tell
for sure because the hair is not long enough yet for me to smell
it...
Anyway this conditioner makes my hair feel as it used to before when
it was 'normal'.
Also this conditioner helps with curl definition.
Your hair is sooo beautiful I look forward to seeing pictures as it
grow out. It complements your eyes so well too!!
There's a book called the Curly Girl's Handbook that has helped me
learn to care for my curly/wavyish type hair... There are some very
good tips in it that help to promote healthy, shiny, curly hair...
Dee
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "l2green"
<lisagreen1119@...> wrote:
>
> Will I LET the curls come back in? My Dear, I have no choice.
They
> have a mind of their own, those curls. Always have, always will.
I
> think my biggest concern is due to those curls. I've been told
that my
> hair will be curlier when it isn't dyed. That's a little
frightening.
> Especially during the growing out phase. I do not want to look
like a
> human Q-Tip! I'm not too keen on straightening my hair. I've
never
> had success with it. I'm also really digging the whole "virgin"
hair
> thing. I've been struggling against my curliness since the 3rd
grade,
> so I guess I'll deal with it when they turn up again. It is what
it is.
>
Will I LET the curls come back in? My Dear, I have no choice. They
have a mind of their own, those curls. Always have, always will. I
think my biggest concern is due to those curls. I've been told that my
hair will be curlier when it isn't dyed. That's a little frightening.
Especially during the growing out phase. I do not want to look like a
human Q-Tip! I'm not too keen on straightening my hair. I've never
had success with it. I'm also really digging the whole "virgin" hair
thing. I've been struggling against my curliness since the 3rd grade,
so I guess I'll deal with it when they turn up again. It is what it is.
Thank you everyone for sharing and pictures. And thank you Roe for the links.
I have put two pictures of my hair and you can really see how there is STILL some colour to get cut out - because I had lowlights a year ago. However, today I went for even less foils for the bleach as my whites are coming in. Around the face has been left without colour or bleach for almost 2 years. My temples have the longest white pieces which I try and get to come to the front.
On the glamour picture [finally me with make up on] you can see it best - the white hair beaming out compared to the old highlight behind it on left.
Thank you everyone for sharing and pictures. And thank you Roe for the links.
I have put two pictures of my hair and you can really see how there is STILL
some colour to
get cut out - because I had lowlights a year ago. However, today I went for
even less foils for
the bleach as my whites are coming in. Around the face has been left without
colour or
bleach for almost 2 years. My temples have the longest white pieces which I
try and get to
come to the front.
On the glamour picture [finally me with make up on] you can see it best - the
white hair
beaming out compared to the old highlight behind it on left.
Anne
Lisa,
You look stupendous! I think you look much lovlier with your natural
color. Thanks for sharing!
Cindy
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, Lisa Green
<lisagreen1119@...> wrote:
>
> Hi. I'm new to this group. I'm new to the gray hair thing, too.
I live in Chicago, Illinois. Eight days ago I cut off all my hair.
I instantly went from having shoulder-length, curly, dyed brown hair
to having very short, white hair.
>
> My mom is having a fit about it. She asked me why I did it. She
told me she isn't old enough to have a daughter with gray hair.
(She's 65, she's old enough!) She told me I'm going to look older
than my years. I'm 44. She told me that my hair is my crowning
glory and it has to be long a brown to look good on me. So, the
reception from Mom wasn't very encouraging.
>
> My husband, although he's not crazy about the cropped hair, is
very supportive about the white hair. He thinks it's beautiful. He
thinks I'm gorgeous and doesn't care what color my hair is.
>
> My daughter-in-law asked me if I was nuts.
>
> My sister laughed at me and said she can't wait for me to come
home so she can point and laugh. (She's just joking, I think)
>
> My best friend asked me why I did it, and had I considered any
other options.
>
> My other best friend said I look like a fuzzy white tennis ball.
But in a good way.
>
> All-in-all, it hasn't been real favorable.
>
> Which is why I chopped it off. What's done is done and everyone
will adjust quicker.
>
> I decided to do this because I hate coloring my hair. I've been
doing it since I was 25. I felt like I was a slave to it. I felt
like everything in my life was being dictated by whether I had to
touch up my hair. I was always running to the drug store for hair
color. Then I'd forget about it and be up until 1 - 2:00 in the
morning the night before an important meeting, slopping goop on my
head. I've had stained skin, and ruined clothing, towels and
bedding. I'm sick of it. I tried growing it out gracefully by
switching to temporary color. Then I discovered that temporary
color, on my hair, isn't. Even the stuff that washes out in 6
shampoos doesn't wash out completely. It turns my white hair
yellow. I tried highlights, which are a real booger to do on hair as
dark as mine. Plus, it's really curly. It looked awful. So... I
got out the clippers and cut it all off.
>
> Right now I look kind of like Mr. Peanut Head.
>
> My glasses look enormous.
>
> I love the color of my hair. So, when it finally grows back in,
it should look awesome.
>
> I bought some hats. My head was freezing.
>
> My biggest fear was cutting off all my hair. I really wanted to
keep the length. When it wasn't working I just did what I had to do.
>
> The nice thing is, it takes about 1 second to do my hair in the
morning.
>
> I take a shower, towel dry my hair, put a little gel in my bangs,
comb it and I'm done.
>
> I got my first complement yesterday. Someone stopped me in the
grocery store and said they loved my hair. That was nice.
>
> I'm not sure what support I'd like from this group. I think just
being able to share stories with others who are doing this would help
me in the transition.
>
> What do we call ourselves when we are no longer brunettes,
blondes, or redheads?
>
> I love the member pictures. I can't wait to post my own.
>
LOL, yes I know Cindy and I will put one on here, I promise. Lisa,
your pics are awesome!!! That has to be really empowering and strong
to have gone from long black hair to short gray hair. Will you let
the curls come back in? Thanks for putting your pics on here.
Kendall
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "Cindy and Michael"
<brwthus@...> wrote:
>
> Kendall we are still waiting anxiously to see a picture of you!!!!
>
> Cindy
> -----Original Message-----
> From: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
> [mailto:deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com]On Behalf Of Kendall
> Sent: Tuesday, February 26, 2008 7:34 AM
> To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] Re: New member getting acquainted.
>
>
> Lisa, I'm Kendall, and I admire you for doing what you did. Its your
> hair and your life, and people should accept that. I'll be 20 in
> April and am more than majority gray. One thing I've learned about
> my own experience is that people are either afraid of change or
> question it to the point of aggravating you. I think its awesome
> what you did and can't wait to see a pic either! You go girl!
>
> Kendall
>
> --- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, Lisa Green
> <lisagreen1119@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi. I'm new to this group. I'm new to the gray hair thing, too.
> I live in Chicago, Illinois. Eight days ago I cut off all my hair.
> I instantly went from having shoulder-length, curly, dyed brown hair
> to having very short, white hair.
> >
> > My mom is having a fit about it. She asked me why I did it. She
> told me she isn't old enough to have a daughter with gray hair.
> (She's 65, she's old enough!) She told me I'm going to look older
> than my years. I'm 44. She told me that my hair is my crowning
> glory and it has to be long a brown to look good on me. So, the
> reception from Mom wasn't very encouraging.
> >
> > My husband, although he's not crazy about the cropped hair, is
> very supportive about the white hair. He thinks it's beautiful. He
> thinks I'm gorgeous and doesn't care what color my hair is.
> >
> > My daughter-in-law asked me if I was nuts.
> >
> > My sister laughed at me and said she can't wait for me to come
> home so she can point and laugh. (She's just joking, I think)
> >
> > My best friend asked me why I did it, and had I considered any
> other options.
> >
> > My other best friend said I look like a fuzzy white tennis ball.
> But in a good way.
> >
> > All-in-all, it hasn't been real favorable.
> >
> > Which is why I chopped it off. What's done is done and everyone
> will adjust quicker.
> >
> > I decided to do this because I hate coloring my hair. I've been
> doing it since I was 25. I felt like I was a slave to it. I felt
> like everything in my life was being dictated by whether I had to
> touch up my hair. I was always running to the drug store for hair
> color. Then I'd forget about it and be up until 1 - 2:00 in the
> morning the night before an important meeting, slopping goop on my
> head. I've had stained skin, and ruined clothing, towels and
> bedding. I'm sick of it. I tried growing it out gracefully by
> switching to temporary color. Then I discovered that temporary
> color, on my hair, isn't. Even the stuff that washes out in 6
> shampoos doesn't wash out completely. It turns my white hair
> yellow. I tried highlights, which are a real booger to do on hair as
> dark as mine. Plus, it's really curly. It looked awful. So... I
> got out the clippers and cut it all off.
> >
> > Right now I look kind of like Mr. Peanut Head.
> >
> > My glasses look enormous.
> >
> > I love the color of my hair. So, when it finally grows back in,
> it should look awesome.
> >
> > I bought some hats. My head was freezing.
> >
> > My biggest fear was cutting off all my hair. I really wanted to
> keep the length. When it wasn't working I just did what I had to do.
> >
> > The nice thing is, it takes about 1 second to do my hair in the
> morning.
> >
> > I take a shower, towel dry my hair, put a little gel in my bangs,
> comb it and I'm done.
> >
> > I got my first complement yesterday. Someone stopped me in the
> grocery store and said they loved my hair. That was nice.
> >
> > I'm not sure what support I'd like from this group. I think just
> being able to share stories with others who are doing this would
help
> me in the transition.
> >
> > What do we call ourselves when we are no longer brunettes,
> blondes, or redheads?
> >
> > I love the member pictures. I can't wait to post my own.
> >
>
Hi, hi, hi!!! Wow, you made my day. I'm having hubby take photos
tonight so I can post them. I'm looking forward to seeing your
new 'do. It's amazing how many people there are out there who are
doing this. And the comments I've gotten. Strangers love it, my mom
is having a fit. Weird. Anyway, I'm glad I inspired you. Best of
luck and thanks for the warm welcome.
Hi Anna - Thanks for the good word. I think you're right. Especially
when it comes to my mom. She was actually crying on the phone the
other night because I chopped off all my hair. Lordy, lordy. I really
think it's bothering her that she's having to face the fact that she's
65. I know it's tough for me, sometimes, at 44. I'm sure she'll be
all right. She's a pretty cool chick. She just gets emotional. I've
discovered that hats are fun. I bought a couple to keep my bare noggin
covered. They look kind of spunky. I wonder how long it'll take my
hair to grow back. Eventually I'd like to grow it long. It's
naturally curly and it used to be down past my waist. Maybe I'll grow
it that long again.
Hey Kendell - Thanks so much!!! I work with a guy who has gray hair.
He's 36. He's been gray since his early 20's. When I came in to work
without my hair he said, "Hey, I like your hair." My other co-worker
said, "Well, you ought to." We're going to take pictures of the backs
of our heads and see if we can guess who's who. Ha!!
Kendall we are still waiting anxiously to see a picture of you!!!!
Cindy
-----Original Message----- From: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com [mailto:deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com]On Behalf Of Kendall Sent: Tuesday, February 26, 2008 7:34 AM To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] Re: New member getting acquainted.
Lisa, I'm Kendall, and I admire you for doing what you did. Its your hair and your life, and people should accept that. I'll be 20 in April and am more than majority gray. One thing I've learned about my own experience is that people are either afraid of change or question it to the point of aggravating you. I think its awesome what you did and can't wait to see a pic either! You go girl!
Kendall
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, Lisa Green <lisagreen1119@...> wrote: > > Hi. I'm new to this group. I'm new to the gray hair thing, too. I live in Chicago, Illinois. Eight days ago I cut off all my hair. I instantly went from having shoulder-length, curly, dyed brown hair to having very short, white hair. > > My mom is having a fit about it. She asked me why I did it. She told me she isn't old enough to have a daughter with gray hair. (She's 65, she's old enough!) She told me I'm going to look older than my years. I'm 44. She told me that my hair is my crowning glory and it has to be long a brown to look good on me. So, the reception from Mom wasn't very encouraging. > > My husband, although he's not crazy about the cropped hair, is very supportive about the white hair. He thinks it's beautiful. He thinks I'm gorgeous and doesn't care what color my hair is. > > My daughter-in-law asked me if I was nuts. > > My sister laughed at me and said she can't wait for me to come home so she can point and laugh. (She's just joking, I think) > > My best friend asked me why I did it, and had I considered any other options. > > My other best friend said I look like a fuzzy white tennis ball. But in a good way. > > All-in-all, it hasn't been real favorable. > > Which is why I chopped it off. What's done is done and everyone will adjust quicker. > > I decided to do this because I hate coloring my hair. I've been doing it since I was 25. I felt like I was a slave to it. I felt like everything in my life was being dictated by whether I had to touch up my hair. I was always running to the drug store for hair color. Then I'd forget about it and be up until 1 - 2:00 in the morning the night before an important meeting, slopping goop on my head. I've had stained skin, and ruined clothing, towels and bedding. I'm sick of it. I tried growing it out gracefully by switching to temporary color. Then I discovered that temporary color, on my hair, isn't. Even the stuff that washes out in 6 shampoos doesn't wash out completely. It turns my white hair yellow. I tried highlights, which are a real booger to do on hair as dark as mine. Plus, it's really curly. It looked awful. So... I got out the clippers and cut it all off. > > Right now I look kind of like Mr. Peanut Head. > > My glasses look enormous. > > I love the color of my hair. So, when it finally grows back in, it should look awesome. > > I bought some hats. My head was freezing. > > My biggest fear was cutting off all my hair. I really wanted to keep the length. When it wasn't working I just did what I had to do. > > The nice thing is, it takes about 1 second to do my hair in the morning. > > I take a shower, towel dry my hair, put a little gel in my bangs, comb it and I'm done. > > I got my first complement yesterday. Someone stopped me in the grocery store and said they loved my hair. That was nice. > > I'm not sure what support I'd like from this group. I think just being able to share stories with others who are doing this would help me in the transition. > > What do we call ourselves when we are no longer brunettes, blondes, or redheads? > > I love the member pictures. I can't wait to post my own. >
Lisa, I'm Kendall, and I admire you for doing what you did. Its your
hair and your life, and people should accept that. I'll be 20 in
April and am more than majority gray. One thing I've learned about
my own experience is that people are either afraid of change or
question it to the point of aggravating you. I think its awesome
what you did and can't wait to see a pic either! You go girl!
Kendall
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, Lisa Green
<lisagreen1119@...> wrote:
>
> Hi. I'm new to this group. I'm new to the gray hair thing, too.
I live in Chicago, Illinois. Eight days ago I cut off all my hair.
I instantly went from having shoulder-length, curly, dyed brown hair
to having very short, white hair.
>
> My mom is having a fit about it. She asked me why I did it. She
told me she isn't old enough to have a daughter with gray hair.
(She's 65, she's old enough!) She told me I'm going to look older
than my years. I'm 44. She told me that my hair is my crowning
glory and it has to be long a brown to look good on me. So, the
reception from Mom wasn't very encouraging.
>
> My husband, although he's not crazy about the cropped hair, is
very supportive about the white hair. He thinks it's beautiful. He
thinks I'm gorgeous and doesn't care what color my hair is.
>
> My daughter-in-law asked me if I was nuts.
>
> My sister laughed at me and said she can't wait for me to come
home so she can point and laugh. (She's just joking, I think)
>
> My best friend asked me why I did it, and had I considered any
other options.
>
> My other best friend said I look like a fuzzy white tennis ball.
But in a good way.
>
> All-in-all, it hasn't been real favorable.
>
> Which is why I chopped it off. What's done is done and everyone
will adjust quicker.
>
> I decided to do this because I hate coloring my hair. I've been
doing it since I was 25. I felt like I was a slave to it. I felt
like everything in my life was being dictated by whether I had to
touch up my hair. I was always running to the drug store for hair
color. Then I'd forget about it and be up until 1 - 2:00 in the
morning the night before an important meeting, slopping goop on my
head. I've had stained skin, and ruined clothing, towels and
bedding. I'm sick of it. I tried growing it out gracefully by
switching to temporary color. Then I discovered that temporary
color, on my hair, isn't. Even the stuff that washes out in 6
shampoos doesn't wash out completely. It turns my white hair
yellow. I tried highlights, which are a real booger to do on hair as
dark as mine. Plus, it's really curly. It looked awful. So... I
got out the clippers and cut it all off.
>
> Right now I look kind of like Mr. Peanut Head.
>
> My glasses look enormous.
>
> I love the color of my hair. So, when it finally grows back in,
it should look awesome.
>
> I bought some hats. My head was freezing.
>
> My biggest fear was cutting off all my hair. I really wanted to
keep the length. When it wasn't working I just did what I had to do.
>
> The nice thing is, it takes about 1 second to do my hair in the
morning.
>
> I take a shower, towel dry my hair, put a little gel in my bangs,
comb it and I'm done.
>
> I got my first complement yesterday. Someone stopped me in the
grocery store and said they loved my hair. That was nice.
>
> I'm not sure what support I'd like from this group. I think just
being able to share stories with others who are doing this would help
me in the transition.
>
> What do we call ourselves when we are no longer brunettes,
blondes, or redheads?
>
> I love the member pictures. I can't wait to post my own.
>
I haven't posted in several months, maybe since November???
Short update is that I had dark brown hair about 5 inches below my
shoulders. Once I decided I wanted to stop coloring, my biggest
problem was I didn't want to lose the length. Even though I greatly
admire Anna for letting her gray come in without cutting her long
hair, I didn't think I could do the two-tone hair at my length.
So January 2nd, I had it cut off. I think my hairdresser was kind of
intimidated about going from one extreme to the other, so it wasn't
quite as short as I wanted. So I went back a month later, and had it
cut in a really, really short pixie shag. My hair hasn't been this
short since 8th grade (that's when I had the Agent 99 from Get Smart
look; the really headhugging crop, with the little side burns curled
around the front. Only those who have seen it will know what I'm
talking about :)
I have anywhere from 2 to 4 inches of gray. Some solid, some
streaked. My plan of action is go back the end of March and have
another inch cut off. Wait two months and have another inch cut, and
then keep repeating the process. I think I may be done by the first
of June, and surely by the first of August.
I'm really enjoying watching it change and seeing how it comes in.
I'm post more, but think I've said enough for now.
Lisa...loved reading your post! I have been trying to decide whether
or not to go have my hair cut for about 2 weeks now...and your post has
just about sealed it! My gray has grown out a couple of inched
now...so I think it's time to go for it! My problem is that I have
begun to swim for fitness...and the bleached out, over-processed ends
are a MESS in the water!!! YUCK!! So thanks so much for the honest,
funny, tender post...and welcome home! I'll post some pics as soon as
I get the cut!
From: Roe <goegroups@...> Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] another photos link To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com Date: Monday, February 25, 2008, 2:46 PM
All I can say about the not so positive comments folks have had about your decision is.....isn't it' wonderful to know that what you are doing is because it's what you want to do. Your hair will grow back and the natural beauty of it will be your glory. As for your mother and rest of them it's their own fear of aging to makes them want to hold you back as well. If they only allowed themselves to be real then they'd understand true freedom and liberation. We are beautiful natural woman of all ages, body types, and races and we are happy, free and at peace with our decision to be real!!!!!!
I'm 41 years old and stopped coloring in Oct 06. I have long hair and I love it. I get lots of compliments. The key is to walk tall and be happy with who you are.....and don't let your hair look old and ragged. You can do it!!! I'm so proud of you for having the courage to be free from the pressures of society.
I wish you all the best and thanks for taking us along on your journey.
Anna:)
Maryland
--- On Mon, 2/25/08, Lisa Green <lisagreen1119@...> wrote:
From: Lisa Green <lisagreen1119@...> Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] New member getting acquainted. To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com Date: Monday, February 25, 2008, 2:15 PM
Hi. I'm new to this group. I'm new to the gray hair thing, too. I live in Chicago, Illinois. Eight days ago I cut off all my hair. I instantly went from having shoulder-length, curly, dyed brown hair to having very short, white hair.
My mom is having a fit about it. She asked me why I did it. She told me she isn't old enough to have a daughter with gray hair. (She's 65, she's old enough!) She told me I'm going to look older than my years. I'm 44. She told me that my hair is my crowning glory and it has to be long a brown to look good on me. So, the reception from Mom wasn't very encouraging.
My husband, although he's not crazy about the cropped hair, is very supportive about the white hair. He thinks it's beautiful. He thinks I'm gorgeous and doesn't care what color my hair is.
My daughter-in- law asked me if I was nuts.
My sister laughed at me and said she can't wait for me to come home so she can point and laugh. (She's just joking, I think)
My best friend asked me why I did it, and had I considered any other options.
My other best friend said I look like a fuzzy white tennis ball. But in a good way.
All-in-all, it hasn't been real favorable.
Which is why I chopped it off. What's done is done and everyone will adjust quicker.
I decided to do this because I hate coloring my hair. I've been doing it since I was 25. I felt like I was a slave to it. I felt like everything in my life was being dictated by whether I had to touch up my hair. I was always running to the drug store for hair color. Then I'd forget about it and be up until 1 - 2:00 in the morning the night before an important meeting, slopping goop on my head. I've had stained skin, and ruined clothing, towels and bedding. I'm sick of it. I tried growing it out gracefully by switching to temporary color. Then I discovered that temporary color, on my hair, isn't. Even the stuff that washes out in 6 shampoos doesn't wash out completely. It turns my white hair yellow. I tried highlights, which are a real booger to do on hair as dark as mine. Plus, it's really curly. It looked awful. So... I got out the clippers and cut it all
off.
Right now I look kind of like Mr. Peanut Head.
My glasses look enormous.
I love the color of my hair. So, when it finally grows back in, it should look awesome.
I bought some hats. My head was freezing.
My biggest fear was cutting off all my hair. I really wanted to keep the length. When it wasn't working I just did what I had to do.
The nice thing is, it takes about 1 second to do my hair in the morning.
I take a shower, towel dry my hair, put a little gel in my bangs, comb it and I'm done.
I got my first complement yesterday. Someone stopped me in the grocery store and said they loved my hair. That was nice.
I'm not sure what support I'd like from this group. I think just being able to share stories with others who are doing this would help me in the transition.
What do we call ourselves when we are no longer brunettes, blondes, or redheads?
I love the member pictures. I can't wait to post my own.
I so admire you for chopping it all off.
I want to do that so badly, but my husband will literally cry if I do. My hair
is actually not that long (top of the shoulder when straightened), but it is
shorter then I have had in a long time. I had my hair stylist put in a temporary
color to help with the transition last month….what a disaster. For some
reason my hair turned Orange!
We had done it before and that did not happen. I haven’t put permanent
color on it since Sept. 5 but I succumbed to the temporary color to hide the demarcation
line. I am waiting a few more months so I can just cut a lot of it off.
I live in CA and believe me being gray
around here is rare. I am 51 and have gotten nothing but negative opinions
from my family (sisters mostly….hubby likes it). But it makes me want to
do it all the more….I am kind of a brat that way ;-) Anyway, good luck
to you and keep posting. I would love to see a picture.
Ann in San Diego
From:deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com [mailto:deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Lisa Green Sent: Monday, February 25, 2008
11:16 AM To:deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] New
member getting acquainted.
Hi. I'm new to this group. I'm new to the gray hair thing,
too. I live in Chicago,
Illinois. Eight days ago I
cut off all my hair. I instantly went from having
shoulder-length, curly, dyed brown hair to having very short, white hair.
My mom is having a fit about it. She asked me why I did it.
She told me she isn't old enough to have a daughter with gray hair.
(She's 65, she's old enough!) She told me I'm going to look older than my
years. I'm 44. She told me that my hair is my crowning glory and it
has to be long a brown to look good on me. So, the reception from Mom
wasn't very encouraging.
My husband, although he's not crazy about the cropped hair, is very
supportive about the white hair. He thinks it's beautiful. He
thinks I'm gorgeous and doesn't care what color my hair is.
My daughter-in-law asked me if I was nuts.
My sister laughed at me and said she can't wait for me to come home so
she can point and laugh. (She's just joking, I think)
My best friend asked me why I did it, and had I considered any other
options.
My other best friend said I look like a fuzzy white tennis ball.
But in a good way.
All-in-all, it hasn't been real favorable.
Which is why I chopped it off. What's done is done and everyone
will adjust quicker.
I decided to do this because I hate coloring my hair. I've been
doing it since I was 25. I felt like I was a slave to it. I felt
like everything in my life was being dictated by whether I had to touch up my
hair. I was always running to the drug store for hair color. Then
I'd forget about it and be up until 1 - 2:00 in the morning the night before an
important meeting, slopping goop on my head. I've had stained skin, and
ruined clothing, towels and bedding. I'm sick of it. I tried
growing it out gracefully by switching to temporary color. Then I
discovered that temporary color, on my hair, isn't. Even the stuff that
washes out in 6 shampoos doesn't wash out completely. It turns my white
hair yellow. I tried highlights, which are a real booger to do on hair as
dark as mine. Plus, it's really curly. It looked awful. So...
I got out the clippers and cut it all off.
Right now I look kind of like Mr. Peanut Head.
My glasses look enormous.
I love the color of my hair. So, when it finally grows back in,
it should look awesome.
I bought some hats. My head was freezing.
My biggest fear was cutting off all my hair. I really wanted to keep the
length. When it wasn't working I just did what I had to do.
The nice thing is, it takes about 1 second to do my hair in the
morning.
I take a shower, towel dry my hair, put a little gel in my bangs, comb
it and I'm done.
I got my first complement yesterday. Someone stopped me in the
grocery store and said they loved my hair. That was nice.
I'm not sure what support I'd like from this group. I think
just being able to share stories with others who are doing this would help me
in the transition.
What do we call ourselves when we are no longer brunettes, blondes, or
redheads?
I love the member pictures. I can't wait to post my
own.
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, Lisa Green
<lisagreen1119@...> wrote:
Lisa you are so funny.
Girl!!!! you've done it!!! You are in... and from now on it will only
get better!!!
You have to share pictures, also of you before...
Welcome!!!
I absolutely love my grays, they are not that many and I am at the
stage of watching the hair grow, it is taking so long... I made the
mistake of using the 'semi permanent' it made my dark hair red!!
I still have a little bit but hardly any.
My hair is a steel color in the front and black with silver strands
every so often in the rest of the head.
I owe this group a picture and I will post one soon I keep saying...
Hi. I'm new to this group. I'm new to the gray hair thing, too. I live in Chicago, Illinois. Eight days ago I cut off all my hair. I instantly went from having shoulder-length, curly, dyed brown hair to having very short, white hair.
My mom is having a fit about it. She asked me why I did it. She told me she isn't old enough to have a daughter with gray hair. (She's 65, she's old enough!) She told me I'm going to look older than my years. I'm 44. She told me that my hair is my crowning glory and it has to be long a brown to look good on me. So, the reception from Mom wasn't very encouraging.
My husband, although he's not crazy about the cropped hair, is very supportive about the white hair. He thinks it's beautiful. He thinks I'm gorgeous and doesn't care what color my hair is.
My
daughter-in-law asked me if I was nuts.
My sister laughed at me and said she can't wait for me to come home so she can point and laugh. (She's just joking, I think)
My best friend asked me why I did it, and had I considered any other options.
My other best friend said I look like a fuzzy white tennis ball. But in a good way.
All-in-all, it hasn't been real favorable.
Which is why I chopped it off. What's done is done and everyone will adjust quicker.
I decided to do this because I hate coloring my hair. I've been doing it since I was 25. I felt like I was a slave to it. I felt like everything in my life was being dictated by whether I had to touch up my hair. I was always running to the drug store for hair color. Then I'd forget about
it and be up until 1 - 2:00 in the morning the night before an important meeting, slopping goop on my head. I've had stained skin, and ruined clothing, towels and bedding. I'm sick of it. I tried growing it out gracefully by switching to temporary color. Then I discovered that temporary color, on my hair, isn't. Even the stuff that washes out in 6 shampoos doesn't wash out completely. It turns my white hair yellow. I tried highlights, which are a real booger to do on hair as dark as mine. Plus, it's really curly. It looked awful. So... I got out the clippers and cut it all off.
Right now I look kind of like Mr. Peanut Head.
My glasses look enormous.
I love the color of my hair. So, when it finally grows back in, it should look awesome.
I bought some hats. My head was
freezing.
My biggest fear was cutting off all my hair. I really wanted to keep the length. When it wasn't working I just did what I had to do.
The nice thing is, it takes about 1 second to do my hair in the morning.
I take a shower, towel dry my hair, put a little gel in my bangs, comb it and I'm done.
I got my first complement yesterday. Someone stopped me in the grocery store and said they loved my hair. That was nice.
I'm not sure what support I'd like from this group. I think just being able to share stories with others who are doing this would help me in the transition.
What do we call ourselves when we are no longer brunettes, blondes, or redheads?
I love the member pictures. I can't wait to post my own.
Thanks, I'm going to check into this product.
Dee
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "lololinn" <lololinn@...>
wrote:
>
> I've used Clairol Radiance Colorgloss in clear from Sally Beauty
supply. It adds great shine,
> and as far as I've experienced, no color. I used to use it in
various colors as my main
> coloring agent. It was easy on my fine hair and temporary. Try a
strand test first.
>
> Lolo
> --- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "Roe" <goegroups@>
wrote:
> >
> > >Dee wrote:
> > > I'd like my grey to sparkle like silver.
> >
> > Dee,
> >
> > Welcome!!!
> >
> > We've spoken lots about shine or lack of shine here.. I invite
you to
> > look at our archives about this subject.
> >
> > I would discourage you from using any product that requires a
developer
> > no matter how weak it claims to be. The developer will discolor
your
> > pigmented (dark or "pepper") hair and will turn it orange.
> >
> > In my opinion the problem is one of dryness and I use a hard core
(for
> > me) leave-in conditioner every time I wash with one with shea
butter.
> >
> > As a finishing touch, also I dab a small pea size bead of
lavander
> > scented baby oil gel on my gray bangs. I spread the oil through
my
> > fingers first. This helps define the hair and brings on lots of
shine.
> >
> > It all depends on your particular situation. The amount of
dryness and
> > how thick your hair is.
> >
> > God luck on your road to shiny silver hair!!
> >
> > Roe
> >
>
Wendy, I believe Pantene makes a all-in-one product, but I am not
sure if it is the one for us. I do use their products
(shampoo/conditioner) for silver/gray hair and like them.
I did see the Clear and Natural products at Target and ponder getting
them; now I will! Thanks for the tip.
Janice
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "Wendy" <wanderer9@...>
wrote:
>
> This was a really interesting post, and made me wonder about the
> shampoo I'm using and if it is causing a slight skin irritation
> around my forehead. I have been noticing it for several weeks, it
> isnt really severe, but annoying. Does Clear and Natural make a
> shampoo conditioner in one product? (I've gotten lazy I guess, but
I
> just cant stand taking the time to do both seperately, and I really
> need a conditioner because my hair is fine and longish and tends to
> get dry easily)
>
> --- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "randomcaprice"
> <keridwen@> wrote:
> >
> > I've been using Clear and Natural shampoo which is a fragrance
free
> > product which is also free of all the most common ingredients
that
> > cause allergic reactions in people. This is the Walgreen's house
> > brand shampoo--I think the name brand product is Free and Clear.
> >
> > I am really pleased with the results and so far, it has worked
> > really great with my gray growout. My hair is soft and manageable
> > and the white really glistens and shines.
> >
> > I suffered a really horrible case of contact dermatitis about a
> > month ago--my face looked like something out of a monster movie--
> red
> > swollen flaking eyelids, goose egg size red swelling under my
eyes,
> > rest of face covered with raised leathery patches filled with
small
> > pus filled pimples. Dermatologist told me frangrance free shampoo
> > would make me all better and it did.
> >
> > Had this not happened to me, I would have never tried Clear and
> > Natural. I love fragrances and I love fancy, good smelling
> shampoos.
> > And I had always used organic, natural shampoos that I paid big
> > bucks for at the health food store. And oddly enough, the first
> > words out of the Dermatologists mouth was "you use natural
> products,
> > don't you". Apparently, adverse reactions to natural products
like
> > Aveda, Burt's Bees, and other natural products are quite common.
> >
> > Anyway....switched to Clear and Natural and not only got better,
my
> > skin is the best it has ever been. Then I got a hair cut a few
> weeks
> > ago and let the salon use their regular shampoo on my hair.
Within
> 2
> > hours, the contact dermatitis started coming back. By the time I
> > drove home, my neck had raised patches, the area around my eyes
was
> > swelling up, and the pus filled pimples were forming on my face.
I
> > washed my hair several times to get the salon shampoo out but I
> > couldn't get it out completely. It must have had some kind of
> > bonding property. So it took me another 2 weeks to get over it.
> >
> > Just thought I would share this for those of you who can use
> regular
> > shampoos and so would never think of buying a product like Clear
> and
> > Natural. I was pleasantly surprised at how well it works and how
> > great my hair looks.
> >
>
This was a really interesting post, and made me wonder about the
shampoo I'm using and if it is causing a slight skin irritation
around my forehead. I have been noticing it for several weeks, it
isnt really severe, but annoying. Does Clear and Natural make a
shampoo conditioner in one product? (I've gotten lazy I guess, but I
just cant stand taking the time to do both seperately, and I really
need a conditioner because my hair is fine and longish and tends to
get dry easily)
--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "randomcaprice"
<keridwen@...> wrote:
>
> I've been using Clear and Natural shampoo which is a fragrance free
> product which is also free of all the most common ingredients that
> cause allergic reactions in people. This is the Walgreen's house
> brand shampoo--I think the name brand product is Free and Clear.
>
> I am really pleased with the results and so far, it has worked
> really great with my gray growout. My hair is soft and manageable
> and the white really glistens and shines.
>
> I suffered a really horrible case of contact dermatitis about a
> month ago--my face looked like something out of a monster movie--
red
> swollen flaking eyelids, goose egg size red swelling under my eyes,
> rest of face covered with raised leathery patches filled with small
> pus filled pimples. Dermatologist told me frangrance free shampoo
> would make me all better and it did.
>
> Had this not happened to me, I would have never tried Clear and
> Natural. I love fragrances and I love fancy, good smelling
shampoos.
> And I had always used organic, natural shampoos that I paid big
> bucks for at the health food store. And oddly enough, the first
> words out of the Dermatologists mouth was "you use natural
products,
> don't you". Apparently, adverse reactions to natural products like
> Aveda, Burt's Bees, and other natural products are quite common.
>
> Anyway....switched to Clear and Natural and not only got better, my
> skin is the best it has ever been. Then I got a hair cut a few
weeks
> ago and let the salon use their regular shampoo on my hair. Within
2
> hours, the contact dermatitis started coming back. By the time I
> drove home, my neck had raised patches, the area around my eyes was
> swelling up, and the pus filled pimples were forming on my face. I
> washed my hair several times to get the salon shampoo out but I
> couldn't get it out completely. It must have had some kind of
> bonding property. So it took me another 2 weeks to get over it.
>
> Just thought I would share this for those of you who can use
regular
> shampoos and so would never think of buying a product like Clear
and
> Natural. I was pleasantly surprised at how well it works and how
> great my hair looks.
>