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Hi Peg,
Welcome to the group. It is  a terrific group with great support and oodles of
inspiration.

I am 54 with not much grey. My dyed color (which was redddish brown) has been
totally
grown out for at least 6 months and I feel so much freedom and excitement about
it. The
white hair does not show up in photos but I plan on posting a new one soon
because it is
now to the length I want. Last spring I had taken the plunge and gotten it cut
short just to
get the color off knowing the shortness would not flatter me tremendously but
just
because I was sick of it.

My new hairdresser Danny (who only does cutting, not coloring) is all for my
plan of
letting it go nature's way. When I told him the first time I went to him I was
never going to
color again. He said "that's okay it is just a matter of preference"

I am totally unconcerned with what others think of the whites peeking through. I
think
they are lovely. Everyone who matters to me accepts it. I am in a very good
position to
follow my plan of going white slowly. Sounds like you are, too!

Debbie

--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, Margaret Flynn <mjflynn121@...>
wrote:
>
> Hi,
>
> I was asked to introduce myself to the group by answering the following
questions, so
here goes:
>
> 1. What country/state are you from? California USA, these days, but I'm still
a
Michigander at heart!
>
> 2. Are you considering showing your gray, are in the process or are already
displaying a
gray mane? I am "in the process"; I just got my hair cut this morning without
having it
colored. I have about 1/4 inch of gray showing.
>
> 3. What kind of reception have you received from family and friends? My
husband fully
supports my decision; he has nice black and gray hair, so maybe that's why.
Family
doesn't know about it yet, but I don't think they will have a problem with it.
>
> 4. What are your reasons? Fears? I was always ambivalent about coloring my
hair (it is
medium brown, slightly wavy, and fine textured), and noticed that my scalp was
getting
irritated by the dye, so I thought it was time to get real... I am 45 years old
and didn't
want to keep coloring it for years on end. When she was in her forties, my
mother did a
million things with her hair (some of them quite strange) and I felt no need to
follow her
example. I guess my main fear is looking old.
>
> 5. What support would you like to get from this group? I don't need major
support; just
want to connect with women going through this, many of whom I imagine are around
the
same age as myself.
>
> 6. Do you feel voluntary member pictures would be helpful? Sure; I'll try to
post
periodically as time permits.
>
> I look forward to communicating with everyone in the group!
>
> Peg
>

#1489

From: Margaret Flynn <mjflynn121@...>
Date: Mon Dec 29, 2008 8:52 pm
Subject: Intro from new member

mjflynn121

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Hi,

I was asked to introduce myself to the group by answering the following questions, so here goes:

1. What country/state are you from? California USA, these days, but I'm still a Michigander at heart!

2. Are you considering showing your gray, are in the process or are already displaying a gray mane? I am "in the process"; I just got my hair cut this morning without having it colored. I have about 1/4 inch of gray showing.

3. What kind of reception have you received from family and friends? My husband fully supports my decision; he has nice black and gray hair, so maybe that's why. Family doesn't know about it yet, but I don't think they will have a problem with it.

4. What are your reasons? Fears? I was always ambivalent about coloring my hair (it is medium brown, slightly wavy, and fine textured), and noticed that my scalp was getting irritated by the dye, so I thought it was time to get real... I am 45 years old and didn't want to keep coloring it for years on end. When she was in her forties, my mother did a million things with her hair (some of them quite strange) and I felt no need to follow her example. I guess my main fear is looking old.

5. What support would you like to get from this group? I don't need major support; just want to connect with women going through this, many of whom I imagine are around the same age as myself.

6. Do you feel voluntary member pictures would be helpful? Sure; I'll try to post periodically as time permits.

I look forward to communicating with everyone in the group!

Peg

#1488

From: "longhair_au" <longhair_au@...>
Date: Thu Dec 25, 2008 3:16 pm
Subject: Re: Louise & Ann - photos

longhair_au

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Hi Anita and Karen.

Thanks for the comments. Much appreciated!

Louise

#1487

From: KL Bell <klbell64@...>
Date: Fri Dec 19, 2008 8:17 pm
Subject: Re: Salt and Pepper

klbell64

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Congratulations, Kathleen!

Great story! I had to laugh about the accidental extra bottle of hair color.

I went to my hairdresser yesterday and she asked if I wanted color again. I just said, "No, thanks." As I was leaving, I told her that I had no plans to color my hair again. She gave me a look and simply said, "Really?" She has a couple of years on me and keeps her hair jet black (color every two weeks). She's convinced that I will change my mind. Laughing....

Have a good one,

Karen

From: Kathleen <kcphelps@...>
To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Friday, December 19, 2008 2:02:43 PM
Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] Salt and Pepper

Well, yesterday I got a trim. Now I have a couple little wisps of color on the ends, but I'm mostly salt-and-pepper with a gray streak in the front. I have curly hair, but had it blown out. I think that makes the color show more.

Last night, I went to the annual neighborhood cookie swap and got a lot of compliments. I decided to just throw it out there, so I told a few people that I was sick of coloring every 3 weeks, having an itchy scalp, etc. They all color, but were supportive and nice.

Today, the kids next door came over and said, "You have gray hair?" They thought I dyed it gray. I told them that I stopped dying it brown. They were very confused. I guess they think only "old" people have gray hair. Too funny.

It's been an interesting journey. A couple weeks ago, my mom handed me a box of hair color because she "accidently bought extra". Right!

It's kind of amazing the difference in just this cut. I haven't colored since last January/February and chopped off a couple of inches along the way. It's a chin-length bob. I know people have mixed feelings about cutting off the color, but it worked for me and I like the style and changing things up.

It is kind of funny sitting at the hair dresser and having someone getting color in the next chair. I wonder what's going through their minds?

#1486

From: Kathleen <kcphelps@...>
Date: Fri Dec 19, 2008 8:02 pm
Subject: Salt and Pepper

kcphelps

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#1485

From: "Ann Hill" <ahill@...>
Date: Mon Dec 15, 2008 11:49 pm
Subject: RE: Message for Ann in San Diego

ahill03

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Thanks Janice, I appreciate it. I love the color and so does my husband….now my kids and sisters are another story LOL. If my husband didn’t mind it so short, I might keep it at this length, but he loves long hair, so I might go a little longer. Your hair looks great short and the color is awesome.

Ann in San Diego

From: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com [mailto:deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of janicea330
Sent: Sunday, December 14, 2008 10:06 AM
To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] Message for Ann in San Diego

Hi Ann in San Diego, this is Janice in Miami - I love the length of
your hair! I think it is a very flattering look. After the next cut,
you and your silver hair are going to look fabulous!

I keep on trying to get mine to get there, but once I reach that
awkward stage when I look and feel unkempt, I rush to chop it off
again.

Regards to all!

Janice

#1484

From: KL Bell <klbell64@...>
Date: Mon Dec 15, 2008 6:28 pm
Subject: Re: Louise & Ann - photos

klbell64

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Those are great photos - thank you both so much for posting them!

Karen

From: Anita Fiedler <anitafiedler@...>
To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Sunday, December 14, 2008 1:59:30 PM
Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] Louise & Ann - photos

So glad you posted these, ladies! These are terrific photos. Your hair looks wonderful. ;-)

I keep thinking I should post a couple of new ones, but really, I don't look much different "on the outside," so to speak. The top layer is growing ever so slowly it seems like. Underneath, now, I can see some definite progress. I'll try to remember to take my camera with me when I get a trim next month and have my hairdresser take a couple pix for comparison. --- Anita, in Dallas

#1483

From: Anita Fiedler <anitafiedler@...>
Date: Sun Dec 14, 2008 7:59 pm
Subject: Louise & Ann - photos

anitafiedler

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So glad you posted these, ladies!  These are terrific photos.  Your hair looks
wonderful. ;-)

I keep thinking I should post a couple of new ones, but really, I don't look
much different "on the outside," so to speak.  The top layer is growing ever so
slowly it seems like.  Underneath, now, I can see some definite progress.  I'll
try to remember to take my camera with me when I get a trim next month and have
my hairdresser take a couple pix for comparison.  --- Anita, in Dallas

#1482

From: "janicea330" <janicea330@...>
Date: Sun Dec 14, 2008 6:05 pm
Subject: Message for Ann in San Diego

janicea330

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Hi Ann in San Diego, this is Janice in Miami - I love the length of
your hair!  I think it is a very flattering look.  After the next cut,
you and your silver hair are going to look fabulous!

I keep on trying to get mine to get there, but once I reach that
awkward stage when I look and feel unkempt, I rush to chop it off
again.

Regards to all!

Janice

#1481

From: "Ann Hill" <ahill@...>
Date: Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:41 pm
Subject: I posted a couple of new pictures

ahill03

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Hi everyone,

I finally got around to posting a couple of new pictures.  I have to
say I didn't realize how SHORT my hair was until I saw the new
picture.  It has been 4 months since I cut it.  I think I have one more
cut to be completely natural, but I really want to get some length
before I do that again.  I can't believe how much better I feel
with "natural" hair color.

Ann in San Diego

#1480

From: "longhair_au" <longhair_au@...>
Date: Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:18 pm
Subject: Re: Louise!!

longhair_au

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Thank you, Roe.

It's a slow journey for long hair but I'm getting there...

Cheers.

Louise

#1476

From: "aborrero2000" <aborrero@...>
Date: Tue Dec 9, 2008 7:05 pm
Subject: Re: gray temples

aborrero2000

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Actually, I had a few hairs along my temples that went grey my senior
year in high school. I started coloring the next year, so I have no
idea how long it's been like this. :)

Now it's ALL the hair in front - temples, hairline - the brown doesn't
start to show until about two inches back from my forehead hairline.
Now that I think about it, I probably like it more than if it
were "salt and pepper".

Anita
(Fellow Floridian!)

--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "taffyblake" <bkent97@...>
wrote:
>
> Hi Anita,I rather think the gray on temples looks distinguished.But
has
> it been getting worse lately?Thats where my gray shows first and I
> havn'nt the will to let it go completely yet.Dont ask my age but I am
> retired.Grace in Florida.
>

#1475

From: "aborrero2000" <aborrero@...>
Date: Tue Dec 9, 2008 6:55 pm
Subject: Re: Dating with Grey Hair

aborrero2000

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Thanks, Timothy!
Nice to know. My X made a comment to our daughters about me "letting
myself go like that"! (well, there's a REASON that he's an "X"!) :)

Anita
Fort Lauderdale

--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "Timothy" <tastoller@...>
wrote:
>
> Anita,
> Fear not, there are some of us guys in our 40's that would not mind
> dating a grey haired woman. I'm 46, and hair color is not an issue
> with me.
>
> Timothy
>
>
> --- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "aborrero2000"
> <aborrero@> wrote:
> >
> > Are there any single women out there with grey hair? I am 46 and
> went
> > through a divorce about 2 years ago and am thinking about getting
> > back "out there" again.
> >
> > I've already had a couple of instances of people calling me a
> > grandmother (my SON in 7). I'm absolutely panicked about dating!
> >
> > I started coloring my dark brown hair in college (and yes, I had
a
> few
> > grey whisps then) and right now I have about an inch of the old
> orange
> > left. I'm probably about 60% grey, but 90% of the hair in front
is
> grey
> > (is that weird?).
> >
> > So, am I resigned to dating 65 year olds from the retirement home
> or
> > what!? LOL
> >
> > Anita
> > Fort Lauderdale
> >
>

#1474

From: "Roe" <goegroups@...>
Date: Tue Dec 9, 2008 3:18 pm
Subject: Louise!!

goegroups

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Again,
Thanks for your awesome photos so elegant as always!!!

Roe

#1473

From: "Roe" <goegroups@...>
Date: Tue Dec 9, 2008 3:15 pm
Subject: new group settings

goegroups

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Ok fellow members,
I removed the pending restriction on new posts.  I added a new member
pending condition of sending the moderator a short intro.  This can be
a private or public introduction.

I hope this takes care of spam for a while.  Otherwise, I can add a
pending feature for new members but I'd rather not do that unless it
becomes necessary.

Thanks for your patience,

Roe

#1472

From: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
Date: Tue Dec 9, 2008 3:09 pm
Subject: Poll results for deciding_to_go_gray

deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com

The following deciding_to_go_gray poll is now closed.  Here are the
final results:


POLL QUESTION: How would you like us to handle unwanted spam?


CHOICES AND RESULTS
- Approve new members by requiring an introduction., 10 votes, 50.00%
- Have a moderator approve each email. I am willing to help moderate., 2 votes,
10.00%
- Moderator approval for each post., 1 votes, 5.00%
- just remove and delete messages as needed. I don't mind receiving the
occasional spam as long as the culprit is removed., 7 votes, 35.00%



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#1471

From: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
Date: Tue Dec 9, 2008 3:09 pm
Subject: New file uploaded to deciding_to_go_gray

deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com

Hello,

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#1470

From: "taffyblake" <bkent97@...>
Date: Tue Dec 9, 2008 5:26 am
Subject: gray temples

taffyblake

Offline

Hi Anita,I rather think the gray on temples looks distinguished.But has
it been getting worse lately?Thats where my gray shows first and I
havn'nt the will to let it go completely yet.Dont ask my age but I am
retired.Grace in Florida.

#1469

From: KL Bell <klbell64@...>
Date: Mon Dec 8, 2008 4:07 pm
Subject: Re: Nicole Kidman

klbell64

Offline

http://www.actressarchives.com/nicole/

Hi Anne,

Thanks for the note and the welcome to the group.

You are so right about Nicole's decision not to color. So many of the critics just keep asking (aloud, no doubt) what happened to the Nicole with the red, curly locks? I say, good for her - she's going for it!

I couldn't remember her hair color in the Chanel ads so I popped over to YouTube to check them out and wow - she really was very blond. The ash blond did made her look almost angelic and quite beautiful. So, it is possible that she decided to just let nature take its course after that.

While checking for the ads, I ran across this site which shows an even more recent close-ups:

You will have to cut and paste it into your browser but you can really see where she's headed in such a short period of time.

Karen

From: Anne <also@...>
To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Thursday, December 4, 2008 3:51:43 PM
Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] Nicole Kidman

Hi Karen and welcome to the group. Thank you very much for drawing my attention to
NIcole's decision. It is a decision not to colour - its really upsetting everyone it seems. They
will probably keep putting her in wigs for her roles, but how fantastic to be natural in her
free time! Incidently, her Chanel campaign, the most recent shots on advertising posters, her
hair looks so damn ash that you can really see what she is going to look like all natural and I
was wondering whether this inspired her.

Roe thank you for your hard work so that we can all share.

Anne

#1468

From: "Timothy" <tastoller@...>
Date: Mon Dec 8, 2008 1:34 am
Subject: Re: Dating with Grey Hair

tastoller

Offline

Anita,
Fear not, there are some of us guys in our 40's that would not mind
dating a grey haired woman. I'm 46, and hair color is not an issue
with me.

Timothy


--- In deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com, "aborrero2000"
<aborrero@...> wrote:
>
> Are there any single women out there with grey hair? I am 46 and
went
> through a divorce about 2 years ago and am thinking about getting
> back "out there" again.
>
> I've already had a couple of instances of people calling me a
> grandmother (my SON in 7). I'm absolutely panicked about dating!
>
> I started coloring my dark brown hair in college (and yes, I had a
few
> grey whisps then) and right now I have about an inch of the old
orange
> left. I'm probably about 60% grey, but 90% of the hair in front is
grey
> (is that weird?).
>
> So, am I resigned to dating 65 year olds from the retirement home
or
> what!? LOL
>
> Anita
> Fort Lauderdale
>

#1467

From: Anita Fiedler <anitafiedler@...>
Date: Sat Dec 6, 2008 12:28 am
Subject: Howard Fineman's Hair

anitafiedler

Offline

I've been meaning to mention this for a month or so.  I don't know how many of
you watch NBC or MSNBC, but Howard Fineman, who is frequent commenter on Keith
Olbermann's show has had dyed black or brownish red hair for a lonnnnggggg time.
And it's gotten to the point where it's really obvious it's dyed.  Those bright
studio lights don't do a lot of color jobs any favors, IMO.

But not so much anymore!  His roots are growing in and they are white.  What's
surprising to me is that he's doing this on tv and the network is *allowing* it!
Wonder if they'd be as accommodating with a woman?  I hope so.

Anyway, here's a youtube clip from a couple of days ago.  Unfortunately, I don't
know how to make screen caps, but if you don't want to watch the segment, Howard
comes on at about 4 minutes in.

And of course, we can't forget Keith's gorgeous gray hair, either!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NXQWng3ar2w

---- Anita, in Dallas

#1466

From: "Roe" <goegroups@...>
Date: Fri Dec 5, 2008 7:48 pm
Subject: Re: Dating with Grey Hair

goegroups

Offline

> Florida Anita wrote:
>
> Are there any single women out there with grey hair? I am 46 and went
> through a divorce about 2 years ago and am thinking about getting
> back "out there" again.
>
> So, am I resigned to dating 65 year olds from the retirement home or
> what!? LOL

Anita,
Thanks for your question.  My first thoughts are these.  Go to Diana's
website and see some of the stories depicted there.  She is really good
at showing us how hot gray hair can look.

I love her 3 videos on makeup, clothes and accessories.  The advice is
so good.  I think if it is obvious that your hair color is a choice and
a choice you love then it becomes a non-issue.

I think how comfortable you are in your skin and how happy you are with
yourself are so attractive to men that your hair can be green and they
would not notice.

I will keep you in my prayers and wish you all the best and most of all
I pray that your future companion is a friend first.

Those are my thoughts, for whatever they're worth... go Anita!!!

Roe

#1465

From: KL Bell <klbell64@...>
Date: Fri Dec 5, 2008 3:22 pm
Subject: Re: New to Group

klbell64

Offline

Hi Anita,

Thanks for the warm welcome, too! I could use it because it's a little cooler than normal here in Pearland this morning but...it's probably even colder in Dallas.

I took some time yesterday and looked at all of the photos and was totally inspired. When I saw your's I kept thinking, "Hmmm...she looks very familiar." Then I remembered. I saw your photo posted on Going Gray Looking Great (another wonderful website). There was another woman's photo in the albums that I saw elsewhere and thought - wow, this really is the place to be. Congratulations on being color-free for almost a year and loving it! That has to feel good.

I couldn't read many of older messages yesterday because Yahoo said that they were not available at the time. Hopefully, I will be able to access them soon.

And, before I forget, thank you to the person who mentioned this Yahoo group in a blogger's comments section. I'm sorry that I didn't write your name down but just know you have probably led many others here.

Have a good day,

Karen

From: Anita Fiedler <anitafiedler@...>
To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wednesday, December 3, 2008 6:39:52 PM
Subject: Re: [deciding_to_go_gray] New to Group

Hi Karen, and welcome from another Texan! I'm in Dallas. I've been color-free since the end of January and I love the way my hair looks. I need to get a new photo posted. Have you had a chance to look through the picture albums, yet? ---- Anita

#1464

From: "aborrero2000" <aborrero@...>
Date: Fri Dec 5, 2008 1:21 pm
Subject: Dating with Grey Hair

aborrero2000

Offline

Are there any single women out there with grey hair? I am 46 and went
through a divorce about 2 years ago and am thinking about getting
back "out there" again.

I've already had a couple of instances of people calling me a
grandmother (my SON in 7). I'm absolutely panicked about dating!

I started coloring my dark brown hair in college (and yes, I had a few
grey whisps then) and right now I have about an inch of the old orange
left. I'm probably about 60% grey, but 90% of the hair in front is grey
(is that weird?).

So, am I resigned to dating 65 year olds from the retirement home or
what!? LOL

Anita
Fort Lauderdale

#1463

From: "Anne" <also@...>
Date: Thu Dec 4, 2008 9:51 pm
Subject: Nicole Kidman

humanatureserve

Offline

Hi Karen and welcome to the group.  Thank you very much for drawing my attention
to
NIcole's decision.  It is a decision not to colour - its really upsetting
everyone it seems.  They
will probably keep putting her in wigs for her roles, but how fantastic to be
natural in her
free time!  Incidently, her Chanel campaign, the most recent shots on
advertising posters, her
hair looks so damn ash that you can really see what she is going to look like
all natural and I
was wondering whether this inspired her.

Roe thank you for your hard work so that we can all share.

Anne

#1462

From: "Roe" <goegroups@...>
Date: Thu Dec 4, 2008 1:39 pm
Subject: spam control poll open until Monday morning

goegroups

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Right now only 12 of have voted.  Requiring new members to write
an intro seems to be well ahead with 8 votes. Please take the time
to vote if you want your choice known.

Please let me know if you want to help moderate, again I will consider
regular contributors.

I can offer in our little intro blurb that the intro can be kept
private if so requested.

Roe

#1461

From: KL Bell <klbell64@...>
Date: Thu Dec 4, 2008 2:53 am
Subject: Re: Re: New to Group

klbell64

Offline

Hi Roe,

Thank you for the warm welcome! I will definitely check out the pictures and the archives. I'm sure there's a lot of good advice and information that has been posted.

I found you via a website and wish that I had written the name down. But I'm happy that the group member mentioned it in response to a posted question. I hope more people happen upon it as I did.

Warmest regards,
Karen

From: Roe <goegroups@...>
To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wednesday, December 3, 2008 8:10:44 AM
Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] Re: New to Group

Karen welcome!
Thanks for your post it was very complete. I would suggest you check
out all our pictures and the archives there is a lot of information and
sharing there of great value. We have great members here you've come
to a great place!

We are glad you found us!

Roe

#1460

From: KL Bell <klbell64@...>
Date: Thu Dec 4, 2008 3:04 am
Subject: Re: Re: New to Group (Karen)

klbell64

Offline

Hi Timothy,

Thanks for the encouragement. You are so right - if I was back in Indiana, I would have to visit the salon quite often to keep up. I've never been one to bow to peer pressure but I think I would cave to family pressure. :) But, I do feel comfortable so maybe I really would hold up. I'm having a sigh of relief right now. You could probably feel it in Fort Worth...laughing.

It's amazing that you have family in Illinois. I lived in one of the Chicago suburbs for about 8 years and now live in Pearland, Texas.

Thank you for the warm welcome!

I'm going for it!

Karen

From: Timothy <tastoller@...>
To: deciding_to_go_gray@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wednesday, December 3, 2008 8:42:07 AM
Subject: [deciding_to_go_gray] Re: New to Group (Karen)

Karen,
Welcome to the group. I enjoyed reading your intro message post. Glad
to see another Texan around. I'm in Fort Worth myself.

You mentioned the following in that post: "
4. What are my reasons? Fears?
My only fear is that I will look older than my mother and my
older sister! :) Luckily, they live in Indiana so the pressure
isn't that great. I just hope that I don't cave right before I see
them again."

Is it not great living away from the 'judgemental attitude and
pressure' of family'. That's one of the reasons I like being in Texas
away from family in Illinois.

As far a being gray and look older than mom and sis; who cares! As
long as it is styled nice, and your happy don't worry. Older women
and those that have a more mature look are mighty fine in my book!

Go for it!

Timothy

--- In deciding_to_ go_gray@yahoogro ups.com, KL Bell <klbell64@.. .>
wrote:
>
> Hi Everyone,
> First, let me say that I was really excited to find this group on
Yahoo! I've been searching for answers to my 'graying hair' issue
for a little while and just needed to know that I wasn't alone in my
quest to just let me be me.  You don't find many pictures of women
with graying hair - especially celebrities. In my search, I ran
across photos of Nicole Kidman and a lot of the comments about her
were negative because it appears that she is letting her hair gray a
bit.  I think she looks fabulous and so does Stacy London even though
people ask why she just won't color that little wisp of gray.
>
> About me -
> 1. What country/State are you from?
>       I am currently living in Texas.
>
> 2. Are you considering showing your gray, are in the process, or
already displaying a gray mane.
>      I am in the process of showing my gray. I've started before
and decided to color it again and again. This time, I plan to stick
with it. I can't keep up with the grays and immediately afterwards
I hate seeing the color line.  I've been color free since about
June. I really don't want to color my hair every 3 weeks because of
the chemicals, time and money. About two weeks ago, my hair stylist
told me that she would color my hair for free. I declined. Then I
started to worry - does it look that bad that she's offering to do it
for free? She then told me that she colors her hair every two
weeks. That was enough for me to know that I'm making the right
choice.
>
> 3. What kind of reception have you received from family and
friends?
>       My husband has been trying to convince me that I shouldn't
color my hair for a few years now. My 7-year old daughter can't seem
to keep her hands off of my 'sparkling' temples and my 12-year old
son doesn't seem to notice at all. My immediate family has been
pretty easy.
>      My mom, on the other hand, colors her hair and is always
telling me about the new color she's gotten and how wonderful it
looks.  Both of her sisters (my aunts) are about the same and color
their hair regularly.  And, my older sister has colored her hair for
as long as I can remember. Recently, she's been wearing a wig and
freaked out when she realized that she's going gray. She called my
mom last week in a state of panic because, 'those wigs are doing
something weird to my hair - it's gray.' After my mother told her
that it's not the wig causing problems, she colored it the same day.
My mom thinks that I should continue to color my hair but she's not
extreme about it. (I turned 44 in November).
>      My friends don't say anything about my hair but whenever hair
coloring comes up, I sometimes get a few looks like I may have
forgotten to do something. Some of them are older and still color
their hair but haven't said anything. Another friend is letting her
hair go for now but said she will eventually color it again. Another
who is one year older had the most beautiful silver/brown hair color
but she dyed it this summer.  She said she felt old.  At the same
time, I've had a stranger tell me that I could knock ten years off my
age if I would just color the gray. I didn't know her so it wasn't a
big issue.
>
> 4. What are my reasons? Fears?
>      My only fear is that I will look older than my mother and my
older sister! :) Luckily, they live in Indiana so the pressure
isn't that great. I just hope that I don't cave right before I see
them again.
>
> 5. What support would you like to get from this group?
>       Just hearing the stories along the way and knowing that I am
not alone in my journey is great!
>
> 6. Do you feel voluntary member pictures would be helpful?
>      Yes.  All of the fashion and style websites say that you had
better not go cold turkey with hair color. You should wait until you
are at least 40% gray, get lowlights, opt for a great short haircut,
change your makeup and color palette etc. ARRRRGGGHH!  I' ve seen
women who are leaving the bottle behind without all of the advice and
they look perfectly fine. I just wish they were all made to feel
that gray is truly okay. This time, I'm feeling better about it.
>
> Thanks to all of you who are taking the plunge and writing about
it. I truly look forward to reading the posts from this group!
>
> Warmest regards,
> Karen
>

#1459

From: "webbkathy" <kathy@...>
Date: Wed Dec 3, 2008 11:05 pm
Subject: I've recruited a co-worker ;)

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I am more than a year into my conversion from brunette to platinum
(sounds sexier than gray, right?). Hopefully by spring I will have
enough length to pull up into a pony tail - my ultimate goal.

A co-worker of 5 years has been very curious about the process - she
is 2 years older than I but not nearly as gray. Well in August she
took the plunge, and as of this week has completely natural hair - she
looks great. She always wears a very short, stylish do, so it was
easier/faster for her. We have our holiday party on Friday, I will try
to get a pic of the two of us and post it. I would say she is 20-25%
gray only - but the silver brightens her face so much. I think
particularly gals like us who had dark hair and kept it dark are
pleasantly surprised by the brightening effect of the gray.

Hang in there ladies.

Kathy

#1458

From: Anita Fiedler <anitafiedler@...>
Date: Thu Dec 4, 2008 12:39 am
Subject: Re: New to Group

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