--- In craniosacralnetwork@yahoogroups.com, "kratzbox4"
<kratzbox4@y...> wrote:

Sue, I get that you deeply care for and, may I say, LOVE this child.
I would like to offer you a paradigm wherein you may fully express
your love. What I wish you to hear as you read this is: "I love you.
I am committed to the fullest expression of craniosacral therapy in
your work." Please DO NOT take any of this as my saying: "What you
have been doing is wrong." Consider that, when souls meet in the
intention of healing, there is no right or wrong.

"Her family & I think the stress starts and the hair pulling
follows, but we really aren't sure. She is such a puzzle."

Sue, regardless from where YOU or HER FAMILY may THINK her symptoms
arise, HER inner Health KNOWS exactly what happened in the past, how
the impact of that event is being held in the present, as well as
what may be unbelievably possible for the future. Her inner Health
KNOWS this right now, right here, in this moment.

I want you to get deeply that there is nowhere to get with this
work. The healing is available here and now; our work, as
practitioners is to ACCESS what is ALWAYS ALREADY PRESENT.

Also, I would like you to hear what you are creating for your work
when you declare this child to be "such a puzzle." You have created
her to be something that must be solved. Do you get how this limits
what is possible for this child's healing? Basically, you are
confining her healing to whatever you or her family might be capable
of figuring out. This amounts to fixing what's seems to be wrong.

When we, as practitioners, listen to our clients concerns as
something that we must solve, then this is the LIMIT of what is
possible that we are bringing to the table for our sessions. We are
determining that the results of our session are confined to what may
be the solution to what we might be able to figure out.

This completely dishonours that the client's inner Health does not
have to figure out what's necessary for healing. It is ready to
unfold it right here, right now. What would enable this?

You could create an expansive space for your sessions wherein
ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. This will give this child's inner Health the
freedom to express itself fully. It will not confine that Health
only to your assessment of what results you would like to see to
your understanding her puzzlement.

What a gift this work becomes then! You become a powerful
contribution to this child's healing.

I will continue to create this paradigm for you. Please read on.

"I feel she is really guarding and protecting herself from a big,
bad monster of an emotional explosion."

If this child is guarding herself, then create a space where she
feels safe! Get out of her way! Drop your concerns. Stop your
thoughts. Halt your protocols. Quiet yourself and touch her
compassionately. Listen as though your listening were all of who she
is. Listen as if none of who you are matters. Let her tell you the
story that she has been ACHING to tell someone.

This is the foundation of our work: compassion. Compassion is
listening from nothing as if we were the one to whom we are
listening. It is an expansive listening that creates a space of
ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE to be said. It is NOT about listening for what
we are expecting to hear as the solution to the puzzle.

What arises in this listening is LOVE. We get really connected to
our committment to healing and the client's inner Health gets that.
Then, in the words of Rollin Becker, "something happens."

That's it: something happens. Whatever the inner Health has
resources to unfold, it now will unfold. ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.

"Our last session, though, I think we got somewhere....she fell
sound asleep on the table. That has NEVER happened...she's always
fidgetty /restless /impulsive."

Again, there is nowhere to get in our work. Everything is ALWAYS
ALREADY PRESENT.

Be advised that falling asleep could be a means of protection for
your client. I am not saying that is what happened in that moment.
The central nervous system is always grateful for a chance to chill
out. I just want you to be aware of what might be happening when a
client falls asleep.

What is the quality of the space when your client falls asleep?
1. Is there an absence? Then your client has just escaped. Bring
YOURSELF into the present moment and be fully grounded there. You
may need to engage the client in some way to assist them with
accessing the here and now.
2. Is there vitality and serenity to the space? Then your client is
accessing something profound. Again, bring yourself into the present
moment and be fully grounded there. Be with ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.

"One thing I keep praying for is that as my skills get better at
this work, her sessions become more productive."

Before you seek more training, I request that you focus your
endevours on strengthening one skill: BEING WITH your clients in a
space of ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. It is a lifetime practice.

Doing this will call you into action as a practitioner on behalf of
the client's inner Health. You will let go of sessions "becoming
more productive." Your sessions will be about service. They will
become time for miracles to occur.

"I could use The Brain Speaks, I think, though I have a fairly good
understanding of neuroanatomy...I'm not sure what paths to try
working through. Last few sessions I have decided to work the
cranium from the sacrum and the diaphrams to try and reverse
the "old" tension patterns of the vaccuum. She is now finally
letting me spend some adequate time on this endeavor."

I request that you try this for your next session. Once the child is
lying down on the table, spend a moment getting quiet within
yourself. Wait to notice that this allows the child to start getting
settled within herself. Now ASK HER where SHE would like you to
touch her. This will communicate your love for her. It is an
invitation for her to participate in her healing session. It makes
it clear that you are not doing something to her; rather, you are
both joining into the work together.

Now, before you touch her, give up EVERY concern you have for her to
be healed. Stand in space that clearly expresses only LOVE. Not your
love for her; just love fully expressed. Notice how the space clears
and expands. Notice when love becomes so present that it is
tangible. Now, you both are in a space wherein ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.
Now it is time to listen and watch. Wait for the opportunity to
emerge for you to engage with your skills. Do nothing but listen and
watch until then.

It will take a lifetime of practicing to master this. Fortunately,
practicing is not about getting it right or doing it wrong; it is
about about doing it over and over and over with each client who
comes to us.

Thank you for your listening!
Brian McPherson, RCST®