Hi lois:

Not really sure how to start this letter ? But I
also have gambled for a very long time. I have
stopped now for 8 months. It's a real viscous circle
I was in and hard to swallow my losses. But all I
could do was know my money was gone and stop gambling,
and have an extream amount of patience. The old "One
day at a time" works for some people.

I hope that a few people write you and you can
choose from what they did to stop as we are all
different in the manner as to when we know we had
enough.

If heres a G.A. in your area try and get out to it.
You may think no one knows what you've been thought ?
But all gamblers share some of the same stories,
waking up very angry at yourself, only thinking night
and day about losses or wanting to gamble and many
more feelings that we thought were not normal but we
share them.

This may sound really flaky to you but it's how I
stopped gambling. I'm not going to get into how much
of a hard core gambler I was, this is not about
pissing matches.

1. I have learned how to truly forgive others, with
no hate ( That does not mean I have to take them out
for a coffee ) It means to forgive them in your heart
and hope the best for them. If they did wrong it is
them that live the sad lives.

2. I pray, a lot of people do not understand the
dynamics of prayer. It's a bit of an oxymoron that we
need a clear mind to pray but need gods help to clear
our mind. Prayer worked for me and I hope it works
for you also. No one is healed over night, there is
no magic pill. Try not to be negitive, feed your
subconsious good thoughts and it will come back with
good actions.


3. I now know that we are all here on earth (The
material world) to learn lessons to help our souls
grow. I also feel that without the experances I had I
would not be the person I am today. Sure 20 years of
gambling really hurt, but I have learned so much from
all those experances that I needed to know to grow.
Live is just a big learning lesson, I'm glad that
lesson is over for me.


4. Talk about it to anyone that will listen, G.A.
meetings, friends, family or write me if you please.
As much as I thought that I would be judged by others
that I talked to, I was shocked to find they were all
there to help me. Getting your gambling problem out
in the open really helps. Very hard for me to do but
it really helpped.

Sorry about sounding like a spiritual flake, but I
have read many good books about the dynamics of
prayer. I am not religious but there is some good
advice in the Bible.

I wish you the best of luck and the biggest of hugs,
we all have lessons to learn and things to over come.
No one is perfect, I only hope for you it is now time
to learn what ever it is you need to stop gambling.

Jonathan












--- lois_051958 <ljones432@...> wrote:
> Hi everyone,
> I am new to this group and need lots of help. I am
> a compulsive
> gambler. This all began 3 years ago when I stumbled
> over on line
> casinos and bingo. Now 3 years later I have lost
> over $200K and want
> to desperatley stop this madness.
> Every day I swear to myself that I will not gamble,
> but never stick
> to it. I get on line and think, this is it, today I
> will hit it big
> and then stop. I am so sick.
> I am in desperate need of help,
> Lois
>
>
>


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