Evening All:

I could not have said it better Ernie, best thing
you can do for a gambler is not lend him any money.
It seems to make us realize that the end is near and
we finally have to deal with it. G.A. can be a rough
road but well worth taking. As I fellow told me at
the first meeting I went to "until you put the shovel
down the hole will get deeper".

For your own health stop digging that hole. Look
ahead to one year from now where will you be if you do
not stop gambling, where will you be if you do stop.

I gambled for over 20 yrs and had total control ( so
I thought)and did not listen to advice. I have become
very spiritual since I have stopped gambling (NOT
Religious) it works for me, but does not work for
everyone. I faced my fears ( the ones that drove me to
gambling ) and as it turns out there was nothing to
fear?? My fears were only my thoughts of reactions of
others that never really came to be. Do what ever it
takes for you to stop. Gambling is not healthy for
the mind, body or soul.

As for your boyfriend I hope for you he also stops,
but he will not until he puts his shovel down. You
can be sure it's not you thats going to put it down
for him. We have to do it for ourselfs.

Love and Luck to Everyone
Jonathan
bytemonster@...


--- christina871 <no_reply@yahoogroups.com> wrote:
> Hi Ernie - Although I might have a problem, I am
> almost sure that my
> boyfriend has a problem. He owes me a lot of money
> right now and the
> situation is uncomfortable. When we are at the
> casino and he has
> already maxed out the amount he can debit from his
> checking and
> brokerage accounts, and he has put thousands on his
> credit card, he
> borrows money from me. I feel as if I can't say
> 'no', but I know
> that he is going to lose it. I know that he is
> feeling the pain of
> the debt and he owes me so much that I don't want to
> ask him for it.
> He is good for his word, but he honestly thinks that
> he can pay me
> back by borrowing more money from me and then
> winning back what he
> owes me?!? Do you (or anyone here) have any
> suggestions as to how to
> handle the situation? How can I stop gambling when
> I live with
> someone who also can't stop gambling? I'm not
> perfect because he
> really doesn't have to twist my arm to go but at the
> same time I know
> that it is a bad idea. Lately, even when we are
> both up by
> thousands, it's not enough and we leave the casino
> in the hole.
>
> --- In compulsivegamblingrecovery@yahoogroups.com,
> Ernie Jacobs
> <erniej100@y...> wrote:
> >
> > Hi there christina, I'm Ernie J and am a
> compulsive gambler. Your
> brief history sounds familiar. Have heard many
> tales similar to
> yours while attending Gamblers Anonymous meetings.
> You might be on
> the path to this addictive disease, but only you
> will know. It's
> when you admit to yourself that you are a compulsive
> gambler and out
> of control. Don't try to categorize yourself as a
> "casino
> gambler". All compulsive gambers have had the same
> start as you.
> Even if it is playing the lottery, video machines,
> internet gambling,
> sports betting etc, we all have similar histories.
> Try to find a
> meeting. Get a chance to answer the twenty
> questions. You might
> find out a little about yourself. The meetings are
> there for those
> who desire to stop gambling. Take care.
> > Ernie J.
> > christina871 <no_reply@yahoogroups.com> wrote: Hi
> - I have been
> gambling for a while and I feel like it has slowly
> > gotten out of control. I'm not sure if I actually
> have a problem
> > though. I'm hoping I can find the answers through
> this board. My
> > boyfriend and I go to the casino about twice a
> week (two and a half
> > hours away) and go straight to the high limits.
> We started off
> > playing the $1 slots once in a while....now we are
> frequently
> playing
> > $15 slots and the ocassional $100 slot. Not sure
> if this
> constitutes
> > a problem or not. I have lost a couple thousand
> in a night and my
> > boyfriend has lost several thousand in one
> night....although we
> also
> > win, it is beginning to add up. At this point, I
> am just starting
> to
> > look for answers. I look forward to being a part
> of this group.
> > Christina
> >
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