Frank Pittman, in his book, Grow Up, sounds almost Adlerian in his
discussion of how friendship and other quality relationship experience
prepares one for marriage. Simply put, if it isn't good for
friendship, it won't be good for marriage. Pittman makes a
particularly good observation, saying that a person should study the
friendships of a prospective mate. He suggests that the prospective
mate might be presenting a facade, a false front for the purpose of
fooling someone they want to pull into marriage- yet- the friends of
this person are not so likely to put on a show. This person may be
more like their friends than they actually appear for the moment.

Gerald Ford

- In classicaladlerianpsychology@yahoogroups.com, Michele Baiano
<mic60it@y...> wrote:
> I think that these ideas could be connected to the
> discussion of the relationship between self and
> society.
> If people have developed social interest , they are
> likely to feel a deep belonging to the human race. In
> this way the term "fellow-man" could be understood as
> able to empathize with their fellow humans.
> Best wishes
> Michele Baiano
>
> --- "Howard Gontovnick <howardg@a...>"
> <howardg@a...> wrote:
> > I would be interested in a clarification of what
> > other people think
> > Adler meant when her wrote "The right preparation
> > for love and
> > marriage is first of all to be a fellow-man and to
> > be socially
> > adjusted."
> >
> > Now obviously the term "fellow-man" could be
> > understood as good
> > friend, interested in the other more than oneself
> > but I think it means
> > a little more.
> >
> > I welcome your thoughts.
> >
> > Thanks,
> > Howard Gontovnick
> >
> >
>
>
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