There are two points. One – she is old enough to tell a judge where she
wants to live. Two – you have no legal say in where she goes or who she
sees, they do.

My advice is to check the emancipation laws in your state. I know in Utah
and in South Dakota, you can emancipate yourself at 16. Then at least she
has a couple of options.



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From: child_neglect_abuse@yahoogroups.com
[mailto:child_neglect_abuse@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of momshere4u6
Sent: Friday, March 02, 2007 7:03 PM
To: child_neglect_abuse@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [child_neglect_abuse] can i be involved with my daughter



my daughter is 17yrs old she was adopted about seven years ago
recently she was removed from the her adopted family.the new husband
made advances on her.that is when i was allowed back in her life.i was
not approved to have her placed with me.but i do get to have her stay
on the weekends.she has been placed with my daughter-in-laws aunts.she
lives just a few blocks from me and she is going to the school that is
right across the street from my home.can i be involved and be apart of
her school and her therapy.i want to be able to help.she is having
trouble in school .and there are some things that i am concerned about
that i want to point out to them i have never stopped being a mother
even when she was adopted we had contact through her brother who was
allowed to see me and he was living in the same home as her.he was a
foster child he refused to be adopted.my daughter is on meds she was
depressed these pills are additive she doesn't want to take them this
is the second or third time she has stopped her meds .can they make
her take them or can she refuse to take them i dont approve of them.it
teaches to self medicate.got a problem take a pill a little angry take
a pill depressed take a pill.then in a few years she will be in my
shoes with her family gone.and she is being bomb barded with so many
people checking on her and they all want to meet with her.she wants to
be a kid she is sick of them.they are a reminder that her life isnt
normal.she wishes they would all go away.there was never this much
involvement in my other children's life's .this is ridiculous why cant
the system do any thing with commonsense they don't treat families by
there individual needs it to complicated to use commonsense well it
would be helpful if someone could help





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