Hi All! I am posting this to several groups that I am a member of and
hope to get some support for this important desire to make something
happen. Let me know what you think!
Hope everyone had a good weekend! I myself just got back from a
women's retreat with my church sisters and it was such a blessing!
You know, and while I am sure all of you have already come to this
conclusion, I think I figured out why the case wreckers et al are
destroying our beloved families.
Everyday each of us see children who are in desperate need of some
type of intervention and yet they remain with or are returned to
their families for the abuse and neglect to continue presumably until
they themselves escape it and by all the headlines in the national
news, it is usually through their commiting attrocities on those who
have abused them. How many children end up killing their families,
their principles, their priests, fellow students, co-workers,
innocents of every shape and size, etc. because they were abused and
no one stepped in to stop it? Conversly, how many of our children
are taken from loving homes where there are family members who would
sacrifice anything to take in their loved ones and yet they are not
permitted to do so?
Well, my light bulb moment gave me a clear vision of why these things
are happening. Our grandchildren are not abused, they do not have
any serious difficulties, deformities, challenges, etc. They are
four normal, loving, cute, smart, precocious, beautiful. caring,
intelligent, have I said gorgeous yet? Well, you get the picture -
and your loved ones are just like ours. They left our families in
the blessed condition above, and the abuse and neglect has NOW begun
in their little lives! They now feel abandoned, unwanted, etc. by
the families that they so desperately want to return to and spend
their lives with. But, because of their ordinary, age-appropriate
behaviors and traits, because they were brought up with manners and
the ability to love and care for other living things, they are prized
possessions for anyone who wants a ready-made family that comes
complete with a monthly bonus!
No one wants children that are abused, need special attention, are
possibly going to inflict harm or embarrasment on their families and
communities! That would be too hard! My God, then they would be
earning those bonuses every month, they would have to spend that
money on actually taking care of the children instead of putting it
toward that new speed boat or recreational vehicle, or new home, or
trip to the Bahamas while the kids stay with the nanny (also afforded
by the monthly bonus).
Sure, they are still taking the newborns who are born to moms with
substances in their systems - which I happen to think is an invasion
of privacy unless the mom consents to the testing - because they are
babies and they are easily adoptable (their problems if any won't
show up until after the adoption is final and off of DSS case roles)
and they have an instant case of abuse against the parent that most
anyone will find proof enough to terminate rights. But even with
this, there aren't enough babies to go around so they have to find
children who are just as easily adoptable so they come after ours at
a rate that is increasing every month.
People, it is time to abolish this system! Look at all the stories
that have popped up in our groups within just the last month that
tell this very story! The only way our counties and case wreckers
etc., can continue to get their budgets is to INCREASE the number of
adoptions per fiscal year and the only way to do that is to bring in
the children who don't need to be fixed! And if they never take in
the children who need the help, then their work loads are cut way
down. You bring them in, do a little paperwork and a search for a
new family, and boom - the file can be signed off on, a cake can be
placed in the breakroom for another successful adoption/monthly
bonus, and everyone is happy!
And yes, as one poster recently stated, we have let this happen!
Partly because as Americans we did not want to believe that this is
now the custom, not the exception and partly because it has fallen on
deaf ears for so long when we have complained that we do not know
individually how to stop it.
We cannot let this continue, for the simple fact that it will
escalate by definition in the current laws! More and more families
are having to live on below poverty incomes, more and more parents
are having to work full-time in order to try to pay the minimum
bills, and hence, more and more of our precious children are going to
be picked up at school by DSS, DCF, whoever because mom and dad were
a few minutes late to pick them up because the boss wasn't done
talking. Or they will be picked up at the hospital because the
doctors think the child is being abused because they fell off the
backyard jungle gym and broke their arm.
Marches have been held on Washington for many years for a number of
different causes. They have brought National attention to the
matters that they are marching for and in some instances, have
changed the situation at every level of government. We need to do
something NOW! I for one am not willing to keep posting here, to
write Dr. Phil which I have done, write to Katie Couric which I have
done, write to my legislators and other government officials which I
have done ad nauseum because they do not see me and can easily ignore
my pleas when all they have is a piece of paper with a bunch of words
and exclamation points and tear stains! Demonstrating in front of
the local offices is not enough because your county does not get
embarrased when my county has a demonstration and visa versa. We
have got to come together as a community or enraged, angry, desperate
yet for the most part law-abiding citizens and bring this to the
attention of our entire country at one time. It will be difficult to
ignore the many pictures of innocent children on posters broadcast
across the country by the news media, it will be nearly impossible to
argue the point of 'in the child's best interest' when there are
thousands, perhaps millions of normal, innocent children being loved
from afar by banners, quilts, t-shirts, etc. on the White House lawn
or at the Lincoln Memorial or wherever.
You can all think I am just ranting and raving or venting, or
whatever, but honestly, has anything we have done up to now worked?
Many of us cannot afford an attorney but could somehow get to D.C. if
we wanted to bad enough! I am tired of writing and getting sympathy
and much appreciated advice and giving the same. Yes, as a hurting
community we need support and advice and a shoulder to cry on, but
what we all need is for these people to get out of our lives and the
lives of our fellow citizens who have yet to get that knock on the
door or smack across the face. We have got to stand together as one
hurting, fed-up, fired-up, educated, willing to take a road trip,
bunch of loving realtives who demand change and the return of our
family members.
You guys can take it from here, you know where I am, but I cannot
take any of this sitting down (typing) any longer. At this point, I
have nothing to lose but my self-respect and possibly the future
respect of my family and particularly my grandchildren when they
someday ask me why I didn't come get them - save them - protect
them! I am going to march - who is willing to come with me and when?
jusnanale28