Subject: termination of parental rights by way of effective parenting


hi there
I'm tracie fugate and I'm the mother of 3 great
kids.
The situation that I'm currently dealing with is
that
my parental rights to my kids has been terminated
which is in the appeal process.
I was found guilty of physical and emotional neglect
along with lack of supervision to my sons who are
now
8 and 6 years of age.
For the last 2 years I have been trying to get them
return to me. I have follow the Virginia beach
foster
care plan that was prepared for me but still hasn't
received what I didn't comply with to have my rights
terminated.
in that time one of my sons has been hospitalized in
3
physic wards and has been diagnosed as bi polar,
adhd,
and ptsd but i had already had him tested and he was
diagnosed as adhd. last i heard and read was that
he
was having "difficulties" being separated from me.
my
other son has been diagnosed as adhd which we had
him
tested before which stated that he wasn't but he had
security difficulties. I myself have been diagnosed
with bipolar and alcoholism which I was being tested
before the vbss got involved.
I'm not saying that our family didn't have its
problems but not enough to have my children taken
away
from me and their family forever. to talk about
being
separated, my sons have been apart for these 2 years
except for 6 weeks and having documents from
Virginia
beach social services stating that each foster
family
wants to adopt them. i have been what i call
blacklisted which is understandable when dealing
with
the welfare of our children but when you have
professionals who has their own personal
feelings/agenda than what is fact it became tragic
for
all involved.
i have been fighting for my sons to the point where
i
had to talk to the director of the family/child
therapist that vbss sent my kids and later myself.
i
had to discuss how she tried to alienate my sons
from
me and confuse what she wanted from the sessions. as
a
result she started stating that my sons were in fear
of me and that i was telling them to be "difficult"
when they return to their foster families.
I am on my fourth court appointed attorney who has
not giving any answers to my case. He was appointed
on March 24, 2005, and as of today has not received
my
court files.
i have completed a parenting capacity evaluation
that
was set up by the vbss which stated that i should
not
have my sons. this is after the test results stated
that i tested in the "norm" of the average American.
they stated during the test that they were not bias
and didn't get any info on my case before the test.
but as i read their final paper everything that was
told to them by vbss was fact and everything that I
stated was written as "alleged," they had the nerve
to use that word because everything i was asked I
could back it with documents. They didn't believe
anything from me as fact nor did they ask me for
some.
on the day that my parental rights were taken from
me
i was in a courtroom where the CASA worker told one
of
the foster parents lets pray that they kids will not
return. where i had to hear a social worker state
that
my youngest son was terrified of me which came to be
unfounded when i completed the parenting capacity
evaluation which stated that my neither sons were
not.
i had the children's therapist who i had to
reported
to her director earlier state that my oldest son and
I
had a parent-child role reversal which was the first
I
heard of that day.
I tried to recall what the foster care plan wanted me
to do. It stated that I must have a job, housing,
stability, comply with anything that they said for
to
do. I could not hear all who testified that I
didn't
do any of those.
I went back to my personal files and discovered that
I
did not comply to one thing. I read a letter from
the
agency that stated that I had completed but I did it
"too concrete."
who in this world loses their children because the
complied and that the only thing the agency could
say
to keep my children was to list their allege
reactions
towards me.
I say allege because I don't know. I had not been
taken from my parents. I have not had to deal with
emotions that at age 6 and 4 that I could probably
not
deal with at age 34.
My case has so many mental and emotional loops that
I
don't know if I did them all or some agency had some
part in it.
I'm writing you for help because no one will listen
to
my children. Labeling and re-labeling them over and
over. medicating them and myself in order to
stabilize
as they call it. All that are involved are all paid
by the state in some way. I think that my children
if
this nightmare continue will not be what one may
call
normal.
I had read in an article that children in foster care
are more likely to be criminals, dropout, and people
who are "lost."
My children deserve more than that and I have worked
hard to not to write this kind of script for them.
we need help
I have nothing to pay for those big lawyers and
doctors to prove that we need each other but the
other
side does which makes this an uneven advantage when
fighting for our lives.

Please if you could help or know someone who could
help pro bono it will be appreciated.
I'm not trying to get a hand out believe me I will
work for it.

contact me

tracie fugate
4121 macarthur road
Virginia beach, Virginia 23453
7576858889
drewjewells@...
drewjewellsx1@...

my kids need you help

after begging for months to have a written letter on
why the department file for termination of my
parental
rights i finally received it. it states that i
haven't
taken responsibility in this 845 days for what has
brought my children into foster care which is not
true. i know what i have done to put their lives
into
such a chaotic situation. also, they stated that i
have the inability to "parent effectively" without
giving me list or facts on what areas I'm lacking
on.
i have taken about 10 parenting classes and read
many
books on the subject on parenting and parenting "my"
children. my children have been gone for 845 days
as
of July 22, 2005 but how could i or others lost
their
children because a court decides that you have done
everything that is needed to regain your children
but
now "effective parenting" is in question. I have
spoken to many social workers who have train me in
parenting and different styles of parenting and they
keep asking "how are you and your boys?" meaning
that
they had expected me to get my sons back and are
surprise when I answer them that my rights have been
terminated.

There are so many elements in my case that not
person
especially a women a mother such have to go through
when they know that they have done everything to
fight
for their kids.

please help
I was aware of the trial by jury here in virginia but it was