I have been a lurker on this group for some time.  I need advice on what to do.

 

I have a child born out-of-wedlock and I have sole custody.  The father is the non-custodial parent (NCP) who has visitation, period.  I have dealt since 1999 that side filing false allegations of anything and everything.  They have went through about every source they can to file (town Paternal GM works in, our city police, county sheriff, DFC/CPS) and their accusations range from sexual to physical to, most recently, medical neglect.  The people they accuse has been myself, my husband and even my custodial Stepson (when he was living at home, he is now grown) and my son (who is just 11 now).

 

On Christmas b/c NCP wanted to switch the agreed visitation after he exercised his portion and I refused he, his wifey and his mommy immediately went to the sheriff's department and filed Medical Neglect allegations.  The officer said he felt it was more civil and wouldn't do a thing that night (Christas Day in the evening) but would make a visit to child's house to ensure her safety and all that.  He showed up the next day (dec. 26th) and he was here for about an hour.  He said that he felt they were doing this vindictively and with malice.  Everything was unfounded and charges dropped.

 

Let me tell you something else, child was placed on ADD Medication oh, about a year ago.  Why?  She has major anxiety issues and they constantly place her in the middle of adult issues (such as this) and Dad refuses to participate with the psychologist saying the psych. is a quack.  He says that b/c the doc has been seeing D since 2001 and D talks mainly about things bothering her which mainly stems around them and their visits.  Stepsister over there hurting her, how she is afraid of them, etc.

 

Well, since being placed on ADD she has not really gained weight.  She lost about 5 pounds AFTER her 5 week summer visit with her dad and them.  Usually she does this and gains it back when she is home during the fall and winter months.  The psychologist said that a lot of her problems stems from those visits and how they treat her (by taking her to sheriff or CPS to be 'looked over' for possible abuse).  Doc said that what they are doing is emotional and psychological abuse as well as some physical abuse (the Stepmom and Paternal GM did their own blood testing on D).  The child's pediatrician did a blood work back in October I think which Dad knew about.

 

Dad knows about a lot of things but refuses to help.  He won't go in to see the psychologist (see, they think the doc is out to get them so they say he is a quack...they also try to say that he knows the "deteroration" on child's health but won't do anything and wants him investigated to...what they told the sheriff deputy)

 

Well, I found out that when they p/u child on Friday for their weekend visit they plan to rush her to CPS to the caseworker.  The PGM has already talked to the caseworker and knows what she wants ro needs in order for them to do a thing. 

 

After their Christmas time charges I called the prosecuting office and was told what I can do.

I filed a complaint with the sheriff's department on them for intentionally filing false information.

 

I wonder what I need to do to protect my child?

 

Do I call my attorney again?  (He is looking into filing something to stop visitation...he has to talk to psychologist first)

 

Do I call the caseworker and talk to her?  Last year when they did this she seemed pretty tired of their crap.  Do I take that chance again?

 

Do I refuse to let child go knowing what I know?

 

Thanks,

Jennifer