New here. My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We met in a drinking type of scene. He worked in a bar. He seems to be enamored of the wild man...
I wonder if that woman may have had a few drinks herself , or may have been driving with no license , she sure did not do him a favor, she helped enable...
An alcoholic will go to any lengths to get that drink. I will go to any lengths to use the tools given me through Alanon, to keep my life and mind in order. ...
I hear what you guys are saying. It had not occurred to me that the other driver was enabling. Of course. However, as far as living in chaos, tell me this:...
I'm in a similar situation, but in addition he cheats on me. Staying mostly for my kids because I think they need a dad, but curious about the advice others...
Oh at the beginning I was a total enabler. I bought it for him...lied for him...made excuses for him etc. I went to Al-anon meetings and rolled my eyes...
Thanks for this - I have to learn more how to do the detach... ... him...lied for him...made excuses for him etc.� I went to Al-anon meetings and rolled my...
If you love someone then you will leave them if that is what's best for that person. Love is about doing what is best for someone even if it means giving them...
If you are afraid of his anger it is in your best interest to get help for you and your 2 year old if only for the child's safety. It took my husband 20...
I also stay because of the kids but there is a fine line between the love you have for an addict/alcoholic and the love you should have for your children. ...
Thank you for your words. I know you are right. He has settled down over the last few days. It's a cycle. I am not so naive as to think we are probably not...
I'M NO LONGER WITH AL ANON, SO PLEASE DON'T SEND ME ANY MORE EMAILS. I WISH YOU MUCH LUCK IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE. MAY YOU BE BLESSED TODAY, TOMORROW AND...
I had to do the same. My husband knew I was resourceful and used that against me. He made sure our credit was maxed out and then would work periodically...
I was told that in Al-Anon we're not supposed to give advice. We are only to share our experience, strength and hope. So, with that in mind, I wanted to...
hi I just joined this group and thought I'd just jump right in and start asking questions. First, I am hearing that I need a sponser, so how do i go about...
Hi, I am also brand new, and am in a similar situation with my husband. I didn't know that Al-Anon members needed a sponsor too; could you let me know if you...
It is suggested that you get a sponsor to help you with things you cannot deal with and it is \more personal than online. If you go to Face to Face meetings...
For me to choose a sponsor, I went to meetings and listened to what everybody said. I chose the one that I felt knew what it took to quit being an enabler, and...
Hi, Are groups divided by age or gender, etc? I'm trying to figure out which one I should be attending - I'm a 28 year old female with an alcoholic husband....
There are an array of meetings. Some are set for women only, some for men only, and some for both. Pick a meeting that you're comfortable in. I always like...
Hi: Here at Al-Anon we don't have age requirement so it doesn't matter. When I started Al-Anon I went to all the meetings in my neighbour and found the one...
OK so where to start...my husband is not so much addicted to alcohol as he is intoxication. Let me explain...he uses pain pill in addition to alcohol to keep...
You can hide your e-mail address, but I don't think you can E-mail the group if you do that . as for your display name ,I think you have to change that on...
Thanks for the replies to my questions. I heard from several of you and have already started to feel better sorta. :) As for a sponser and going to local...
I will try to live through this day only. I cannot get better or fix my broken life and everything today. I wan't to take care of my own uncared for issues. ...
I'm looking for other parents that have kids (my son is 18) who have had issues with substance abuse, the law, stealing...I am so worried about him it consumes...
I have a son that's 23, and he has chosen the drug path himself. I have to sit back and allow him to hit his bottom, but until that happens, I pray that he...
But how did you get to a place where you can sit back and allow him to hit his bottom? This is absolute torture for me. I am a recovering alcoholic so know...
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