Ok.. I am about to spill my guts here so please be brutally honest with me. I need it. Yesterday all hell broke loose and I am left wondering if I can do this...
First, take a breath. It sounds like the situation is much more complicated than it sounds. I understand your pain and confusion. Unfortunately, addicts...
I think this was the hardest thing for me to accept. He was in rehab for 3 months, so when he got out I expected to be able to spend some time with...
I have a question for you. Which is more important to you, his sobriety, or your romantic evenings? He's doing what it takes for HIM to say sober, and you have...
Yesterday was a better day. One day at a time right Erika? We talked like adults about what I felt, what he felt, and what we both needed. I guess what I...
Your question to your alcoholic was and I quote....." You're going to 3 meetings today, and not spending time with me" ? Sorry if I misread that. I read that...
Good for you! Yeah the not fighting thing is hard for me still. I think it is just frustration on my part. But you are so right when you dont...
... to 3 ... years, and I've ... do NOT try to ... learned NOT ... Spontaneity seems ... statement. I ... don't feel ... with ... I need advice from you. I was...
Don't try doing the same thing over again and expect different results. I know this is difficult, been there got the t-shirt. Trust isn't handed on a silver...
... results. I ... handed on a ... control ... pisses me ... that question ... feeling Thank you for your response. As painful as it is you are so right. I ...
Elaine, One more thing if I may. The only person we have to please is ourselves. **************Vote for your city's best dining and nightlife. City's Best ...
... ourselves. ... so thatn my kids.. you are so kind I have lost my center and become obsessed again. I wait for phone calls email I am so lost and confused.....
Yes, set your foot down. Tell him what you will NOT accept. He probably won't like it, but that's his choice. We don't have to be doormats, and we deserve much...
... really nice day. I dont know how to attend the meetings online but I am trying and you are soo right. I just came back and I dont have a sponsor but you...
Breathing is a good thing. Glad you're doing better. Stay in the moment, and don't let this get the best of you. **************Vote for your city's best...
Hi everyone, Hope this is ok to post here... You can see a list of my groups on Grouply at the link below. Maybe you'll find some you want to join. Amanda ...
New here. My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We met in a drinking type of scene. He worked in a bar. He seems to be enamored of the wild man...
I wonder if that woman may have had a few drinks herself , or may have been driving with no license , she sure did not do him a favor, she helped enable...
An alcoholic will go to any lengths to get that drink. I will go to any lengths to use the tools given me through Alanon, to keep my life and mind in order. ...
I hear what you guys are saying. It had not occurred to me that the other driver was enabling. Of course. However, as far as living in chaos, tell me this:...
I'm in a similar situation, but in addition he cheats on me. Staying mostly for my kids because I think they need a dad, but curious about the advice others...
Oh at the beginning I was a total enabler. I bought it for him...lied for him...made excuses for him etc. I went to Al-anon meetings and rolled my eyes...
Thanks for this - I have to learn more how to do the detach... ... him...lied for him...made excuses for him etc.� I went to Al-anon meetings and rolled my...
If you love someone then you will leave them if that is what's best for that person. Love is about doing what is best for someone even if it means giving them...
If you are afraid of his anger it is in your best interest to get help for you and your 2 year old if only for the child's safety. It took my husband 20...
I also stay because of the kids but there is a fine line between the love you have for an addict/alcoholic and the love you should have for your children. ...
Thank you for your words. I know you are right. He has settled down over the last few days. It's a cycle. I am not so naive as to think we are probably not...
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