Heyya..I hear ya..those pity parties are so sad ..I am learning to try to not take things so personal..he is lately on a bit of a high horse..oh my! Guess...
I think he is at the stage where everyone (especially me) is out to get him. We opened a tattoo shop together about 2 months ago. His credit is bad so I went...
I've learned NOT to try the same thing over and over expecting different results, because unless the alcoholic wants to change, they won't. Only I can change...
You're so right. I know that if he gets angry I just have to not fight back. As hard as it will be I will stay quiet and maybe he will learn that I am not...
Hey all..I decided to go to al-anon meetings here in my city and have been to 2 so far. I see hope and I know it will be a long road before I no longer feel...
... Hi Jim, I cant tell you how comforting your message is. I am new to al= anon but not to life and yet I once again got involved with a recovering alcoholoic...
Ok.. I am about to spill my guts here so please be brutally honest with me. I need it. Yesterday all hell broke loose and I am left wondering if I can do this...
First, take a breath. It sounds like the situation is much more complicated than it sounds. I understand your pain and confusion. Unfortunately, addicts...
I think this was the hardest thing for me to accept. He was in rehab for 3 months, so when he got out I expected to be able to spend some time with...
I have a question for you. Which is more important to you, his sobriety, or your romantic evenings? He's doing what it takes for HIM to say sober, and you have...
Yesterday was a better day. One day at a time right Erika? We talked like adults about what I felt, what he felt, and what we both needed. I guess what I...
Your question to your alcoholic was and I quote....." You're going to 3 meetings today, and not spending time with me" ? Sorry if I misread that. I read that...
Good for you! Yeah the not fighting thing is hard for me still. I think it is just frustration on my part. But you are so right when you dont...
... to 3 ... years, and I've ... do NOT try to ... learned NOT ... Spontaneity seems ... statement. I ... don't feel ... with ... I need advice from you. I was...
Don't try doing the same thing over again and expect different results. I know this is difficult, been there got the t-shirt. Trust isn't handed on a silver...
... results. I ... handed on a ... control ... pisses me ... that question ... feeling Thank you for your response. As painful as it is you are so right. I ...
Elaine, One more thing if I may. The only person we have to please is ourselves. **************Vote for your city's best dining and nightlife. City's Best ...
... ourselves. ... so thatn my kids.. you are so kind I have lost my center and become obsessed again. I wait for phone calls email I am so lost and confused.....
Yes, set your foot down. Tell him what you will NOT accept. He probably won't like it, but that's his choice. We don't have to be doormats, and we deserve much...
... really nice day. I dont know how to attend the meetings online but I am trying and you are soo right. I just came back and I dont have a sponsor but you...
Breathing is a good thing. Glad you're doing better. Stay in the moment, and don't let this get the best of you. **************Vote for your city's best...
Hi everyone, Hope this is ok to post here... You can see a list of my groups on Grouply at the link below. Maybe you'll find some you want to join. Amanda ...
New here. My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We met in a drinking type of scene. He worked in a bar. He seems to be enamored of the wild man...
I wonder if that woman may have had a few drinks herself , or may have been driving with no license , she sure did not do him a favor, she helped enable...
An alcoholic will go to any lengths to get that drink. I will go to any lengths to use the tools given me through Alanon, to keep my life and mind in order. ...
I hear what you guys are saying. It had not occurred to me that the other driver was enabling. Of course. However, as far as living in chaos, tell me this:...
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