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I know he's an alcoholic, I think I'm going mad   Message List  
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Have just joined so I am not completly sure how this works. I am looking to more
experienced members for their advise on how they achieved detachment. I know
members do not offer advice, but I guess if I heard how people achieved
detachment from their alcohilic then "I can take what I want and leave the rest"
I am in the fortunate in that the alcoholic in my life is in recovery. But I am
unfortunate in having an alcoholic in my life at all!!! I am now trying to learn
about detachment as I feel this is the next step I need to take in order to
maintain my sanity. I struggle here though as I cannot differentiate between
detachment and abondonment. How in the name of all that is good and holy do you
detach without adopting and attitude of "Sod You" I truely want to support my
husband and it is fantastic that he is working so hard at maintaining sorbiety,
but how do I support him and mind myself????????




Tue Jun 23, 2009 7:02 pm

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Have just joined so I am not completly sure how this works. I am looking to more experienced members for their advise on how they achieved detachment. I know...
ycuffe
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Jun 23, 2009
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I came to the realization that I'm in control of my own destination, and my alcoholic is in control of his own. I support him by not enabling him, and I make...
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Jun 23, 2009
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It is great to hear that you have succeeded in achieving detachment, although it is a little alarming to hear it took you 24 years to achieve it! I hear what...
Yvonne Cuffe
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Jun 25, 2009
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We have no control over the actions of others , we can only control our re-actions . You must remember that your state of mind is up to you ...You can choose...
Henry
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Jun 25, 2009
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What I meant by 24 years, is....I'm still and always will be working on me. It truly took me about 2 years to learn how to detach. But that is me. Others it...
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Jun 25, 2009
3:48 pm

Get the book "The Language of Letting Go". It's a process and will take time, be patient. As with anything, the more you practice, the better you will...
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