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Re: [chicago alanon] I need some guidence..

--- In chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com, Rhen56@... wrote:
>
> Don't try doing the same thing over again and expect different
results. I
> know this is difficult, been there got the t-shirt. Trust isn't
handed on a
> silver platter, it's earned.
>
> I feel that your inner peace comes and goes because he's trying to
control
> you. The only person I can control is me, and sometimes that really
pisses me
> off.
>
> Reset your boundaries, and stick to them. Do you want him to continue
> bringing you down, or do you want to flourish in your life, without
that question
> of " where is he, who is he with, when will he be home"? I have a
feeling
Thank you for your response. As painful as it is you are so right. I
have been going up and down and my inner peace has been dependent on
hime and he is so controlling. I know the person I can control is me
and I feel so out of control and it is making me crazy. and it is so
painful. I will make it throught this night! I will make it throught
this night!
> since you have forgiven him once, he'll keep on expecting you to
over and over
> again.
>
> His anger might be that he got caught lying yet again. Weigh your
options
> carefully, and choose the path that's best for you.
>
> I wish you the best. Hope I shed some light.
>
>
> Rhenda
>
>
>
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>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>





Tue Jun 10, 2008 1:03 am

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Ok.. I am about to spill my guts here so please be brutally honest with me. I need it. Yesterday all hell broke loose and I am left wondering if I can do this...
Amanda
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Jun 5, 2008
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First, take a breath.  It sounds like the situation is much more complicated than it sounds.  I understand your pain and confusion.  Unfortunately, addicts...
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Jun 6, 2008
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I think this was the hardest thing for me to accept.  He was in rehab for 3 months, so when he got out I expected to be able to spend some time with...
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Jun 6, 2008
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I have a question for you. Which is more important to you, his sobriety, or your romantic evenings? He's doing what it takes for HIM to say sober, and you have...
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Jun 6, 2008
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Yesterday was a better day. One day at a time right Erika? We talked like adults about what I felt, what he felt, and what we both needed. I guess what I...
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Jun 6, 2008
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Your question to your alcoholic was and I quote....." You're going to 3 meetings today, and not spending time with me" ? Sorry if I misread that. I read that...
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Jun 6, 2008
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... to 3 ... years, and I've ... do NOT try to ... learned NOT ... Spontaneity seems ... statement. I ... don't feel ... with ... I need advice from you. I was...
elainc
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Jun 7, 2008
5:43 pm

Don't try doing the same thing over again and expect different results. I know this is difficult, been there got the t-shirt. Trust isn't handed on a silver...
Rhen56@...
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Jun 7, 2008
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... results. I ... handed on a ... control ... pisses me ... that question ... feeling Thank you for your response. As painful as it is you are so right. I ...
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Jun 10, 2008
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Elaine, One more thing if I may. The only person we have to please is ourselves. **************Vote for your city's best dining and nightlife. City's Best ...
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rhent4free2
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Jun 10, 2008
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... ourselves. ... so thatn my kids.. you are so kind I have lost my center and become obsessed again. I wait for phone calls email I am so lost and confused.....
elainc
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Jun 11, 2008
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Yes, set your foot down. Tell him what you will NOT accept. He probably won't like it, but that's his choice. We don't have to be doormats, and we deserve much...
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... really nice day. I dont know how to attend the meetings online but I am trying and you are soo right. I just came back and I dont have a sponsor but you...
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Jun 12, 2008
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Breathing is a good thing. Glad you're doing better. Stay in the moment, and don't let this get the best of you. **************Vote for your city's best...
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Jun 12, 2008
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... moment, and ... Best...
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