--- In chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com, Rhen56@... wrote:
>
> Your question to your alcoholic was and I quote....." You're going
to 3
> meetings today, and not spending time with me" ?
>
> Sorry if I misread that. I read that as if he were ignoring your time
> together, instead of working on him. I've been in Al-Anon for 23
years, and I've
> learned that my alcoholic has his own issues, and I have my own. I
do NOT try to
> block his recovery, and he doesn't try to block mine. I've also
learned NOT
> to plan time together, that it'll happen in it's own time.
Spontaneity seems
> to work much better for us.
>
> Sorry if you thought I was discounting your feelings, and your
statement. I
> have learned in Al-Anon that I won't always like what I hear, but I
don't feel
> that if my recovery were cushioned, I'd have learned anything!
>
>
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I need advice from you. I was with a recovering alcoholic for 7 years
20 years ago. we split up, he cheated on me and I have done a lot of
healing and so has he. He called me last year and we started seeing
each other again. We got closer and then he lied to me and I got upset
and he got really angry and has been angry ever since, this was 3
weeks ago. I have gotten my inner peace back at times but I am getting
mixed messages. come here go away. I am ready to walk and yet it makes
me sad. Help me.