Good for you!  Yeah the not fighting thing is hard for me still.  I
think it is just frustration on my part.  But you are so right when you
dont fight back game over.  Mine drinks off and on and I have learned that
is his thing.  I dont make him drink and I can not make him sober.
 
Good Job!

--- On Fri, 6/6/08, Amanda <ajabben@...> wrote:

From: Amanda <ajabben@...>
Subject: [chicago alanon] Re: his fight
To: chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com
Date: Friday, June 6, 2008, 5:02 PM






I know how you feel. I also have to learn to not fight with mine too.
Please share your sucesses with me!

--- In chicagoalanon@ yahoogroups. com, "awieboots" <awieboots@. ..>
wrote:
>
> You're so right. I know that if he gets angry I just have to not
fight
> back. As hard as it will be I will stay quiet and maybe he will
learn
> that I am not going to do the silly arguing game anymore. We had a
> fight today and after about 10 minutes of my silence he apologized
and
> admitted that he goes off the head when he sees the sun shining and
> thinks of his drinking days. Who knows but I know that for my own
> sanity, I have to not fight him period..
>


















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